Pat and Jill, Thank you so much for your comments. It is difficult for people without cancer, or those who don't have to deal with it vis a vis a family member to understand just how much dealing with the disease takes out of you emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally. Having cancer is hard!
It becomes especially difficult now because the holiday season holds such meaning for most people around the world, and this is the time of year that really makes you reflect on what you have---or don't, depending on your mindset at the time. Regardless if we have cancer or not, many of us do get sucked into the trap of feeling like we must be all things to all people. Warts and all, we can only be ourselves. I really liked the advice given here because it makes one think, this holiday may be totally different from years past, and even those in the future, but it can still hold cherished moments even if it is not covered with garland, ribbon, bows and frosting.
Wishing you both a happy and memorable Holiday season.