Hi cupcake_gal,
Thanks for your question. My initial thought is this: 1) ask him, and 2) if you don't want to ask or talk with him, try not having sex or staying the night next time and see if he still comes back. Guys are typically (and yes, guys may jump all over me for saying this), they are simple creatures. If they enjoy your company, and like you, they will hang out with you. If they don't, they won't. Yes, sex can be a great motivator for a guy, but even with it, a guy will not hang out with you if they don't like you. I like to think you would know if he was putting you on. Regardless of all that, if you enjoy your time with him, try to relax and not worry about it. Make sure you are appropriately protected from unwanted pregnancy and STDs in case either of you have multiple sex partners. If you are looking for more in the relationship, it's time to talk about it with him. Otherwise, yes, you may need to look into other opportunities for a relationship. Hope that makes sense.
We can't tell you what to do, we can only provide insight and inspiration for you to act on as you see fit. I'm not a therapist or doctor, so take this with a grain of salt. If you don't like what I'm telling you, do what you think is right for you. There are some great articles about communication in relationships and other topics in EmpowHER's Sex & Relationships section: Sex & Relationships, you also may want to join an EmpowHER Group to discuss relationships: ]]>Groups]]>
Good luck!
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Hi cupcake_gal,
December 3, 2010 - 9:14amThanks for your question. My initial thought is this: 1) ask him, and 2) if you don't want to ask or talk with him, try not having sex or staying the night next time and see if he still comes back. Guys are typically (and yes, guys may jump all over me for saying this), they are simple creatures. If they enjoy your company, and like you, they will hang out with you. If they don't, they won't. Yes, sex can be a great motivator for a guy, but even with it, a guy will not hang out with you if they don't like you. I like to think you would know if he was putting you on. Regardless of all that, if you enjoy your time with him, try to relax and not worry about it. Make sure you are appropriately protected from unwanted pregnancy and STDs in case either of you have multiple sex partners. If you are looking for more in the relationship, it's time to talk about it with him. Otherwise, yes, you may need to look into other opportunities for a relationship. Hope that makes sense.
We can't tell you what to do, we can only provide insight and inspiration for you to act on as you see fit. I'm not a therapist or doctor, so take this with a grain of salt. If you don't like what I'm telling you, do what you think is right for you. There are some great articles about communication in relationships and other topics in EmpowHER's Sex & Relationships section: Sex & Relationships, you also may want to join an EmpowHER Group to discuss relationships: ]]>Groups]]>
Good luck!
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