I have been with my partner for over a year now. We were both nervous of starting the relationship because of past heartbreaks, but realized we should just go for it and we did. We didn't say the 3 letter word until we felt ready, but 4 months later we bought our own flat together and I can honestly say I have in every other respect never been happier and he says the same, both love each other.
However, just before we moved in together, he stopped sleeping with me as often. We stopped having as much 'fun' as we used to (and we were quite excitable at the beginning!). This has just gotten worse... 10 months he now only has sex with me about every 3-4 weeks? Last time was about 6 weeks ago. I have tried everything, especially giving him space and time, buying nice lingerie, trying to spoil him, 'treating him', just being romantic, cuddly, playful - and this isn't all the time, as I say, I would only try something if I know he isn't stressed or tired, and with plenty of time in between so it doesn't seem like I am harassing him. I love him and trust him to know he isn't sleeping with someone else, he's still very happy and romantic and buying me flowers, but he just is never in the mood and doesn't turn on to me...
10 months now this has gone on, and I have tired so hard, but its breaking me emotionally and mentally and ruining my confidence, making me question whether I am good enough, maybe I'm not attractive enough for him, all these things. I have spoken to him about it, and he said he would try, even mentioned the doctors, but he never went and for me, I can't see him trying... i am trying so hard to be careful and understanding about this as I don't want to ruin his confidence, but what do I do when its ruining mine? Can anyone help??
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I have been with my partner for over a year now. We were both nervous of starting the relationship because of past heartbreaks, but realized we should just go for it and we did. We didn't say the 3 letter word until we felt ready, but 4 months later we bought our own flat together and I can honestly say I have in every other respect never been happier and he says the same, both love each other.
November 7, 2015 - 10:31amHowever, just before we moved in together, he stopped sleeping with me as often. We stopped having as much 'fun' as we used to (and we were quite excitable at the beginning!). This has just gotten worse... 10 months he now only has sex with me about every 3-4 weeks? Last time was about 6 weeks ago. I have tried everything, especially giving him space and time, buying nice lingerie, trying to spoil him, 'treating him', just being romantic, cuddly, playful - and this isn't all the time, as I say, I would only try something if I know he isn't stressed or tired, and with plenty of time in between so it doesn't seem like I am harassing him. I love him and trust him to know he isn't sleeping with someone else, he's still very happy and romantic and buying me flowers, but he just is never in the mood and doesn't turn on to me...
10 months now this has gone on, and I have tired so hard, but its breaking me emotionally and mentally and ruining my confidence, making me question whether I am good enough, maybe I'm not attractive enough for him, all these things. I have spoken to him about it, and he said he would try, even mentioned the doctors, but he never went and for me, I can't see him trying... i am trying so hard to be careful and understanding about this as I don't want to ruin his confidence, but what do I do when its ruining mine? Can anyone help??
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