Male viewpoint here. I am 42 years old and up until now I've been very active. My current girlfriend has refused me 9 out of 10 times, I don't blame her, I know she has health issues and not always willing, but all of a sudden, I find it a chore just to initiate knowing that I will be refused. I found myself quickly losing my libido to the point that now I am the one refusing, and it's not to get back at her like a passive aggressive way. I honestly do not want it anymore. Yet I am still happy with her. I will go out of my way to avoid it now. The longer I've been without the easier it gets, I was depressed about it but now I'm actually doing well. I've found I'm much more passive as well. I'm actually afraid to do it again because I don't want to be right back where I started. I guess at 42 my sex life is over but I feel that I'm old enough that it doesn't bother me so much, I had my time. People change.