withheld - Since you've been in this relationship for 10 years, the real issue is whether or not the decade long relationship is worth continuing or not. Since you are still with him and questioning whether or not to leave, you seem to be having trouble making this decision. It would help you to meet with a trained professional counselor who can help you sort through this situation, determine what is best for you in the long run and also help you channel your anger and fears in a productive way. Is there a social worker, mental health professional, spiritual advisor or other objective, trained person who can help you? Also, if you have co-mingled assets there may some legal decisions involved as well and some measures you may need to take to protect yourself, such as removing his name from any joint financial accounts if you decide to leave him.
The decision on what to do is yours and yours alone, but getting help to make that decision will assist you in living with it for the long run.
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withheld - Since you've been in this relationship for 10 years, the real issue is whether or not the decade long relationship is worth continuing or not. Since you are still with him and questioning whether or not to leave, you seem to be having trouble making this decision. It would help you to meet with a trained professional counselor who can help you sort through this situation, determine what is best for you in the long run and also help you channel your anger and fears in a productive way. Is there a social worker, mental health professional, spiritual advisor or other objective, trained person who can help you? Also, if you have co-mingled assets there may some legal decisions involved as well and some measures you may need to take to protect yourself, such as removing his name from any joint financial accounts if you decide to leave him.
The decision on what to do is yours and yours alone, but getting help to make that decision will assist you in living with it for the long run.
Good luck to you! Pat
December 16, 2010 - 10:41amThis Comment
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