I am a 42 yr old female , I have been in my relationship with my man now fir 2 yrs and 6 months . I love him very much ! I to am going through this in our relationship , he just never wants to be intimate , I want it a lot more then him. We have talked about this and the answers I got from him were nor satisfying to me but I some what understood what he was saying . He told me that he's a little stressed about his job , he is exhausted when he gets home and it has nothing to do with me or my looks . He said he loves me but just never feels like being sexual plus he takes a medication that plays a roll in his wanting it . I am having a hard time with this being the only hurtful thing in our relationship , I have thought about cheating , I have thought about leaving . I am now seeing a counselor and I'm working on me , I began to feel uncomfortable, unloved , unattractive and my self esteem and my attitude was changing and i didn't like how I felt sad and unhappy all the time . Counseling is helping me ! I did realize that me asking for sex from him often makes him angry and i felt like I was pushing him away so now I try my hardest to just not ask . I do take care of my sexual needs by myself now when I get overly frustrated from wanting it and not getting it . It seriously does hurt the relationship . Now I'm working on me , I'm working out and I'm painting again , trying to find things to keep me busy and happy is helping and i feel better and feel better about myself as well . I do still feel like I'm unsure if this will be my future long term love of my life or just my best friend . I truly love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him , but I want to be happy and content in every way . Only time will tell because I deserve to be loved and desired and happy . My best advice on this is just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean that they don't love you . But feeling loved , appreciated and having someone give you there all is important and if you are not happy , talk , get answers , try counseling or get out . Because we all deserve to be happy and be with someone who is going to show us they love us in every way and I want nothing less . Good luck to all . Thanks , Tabitha
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I am a 42 yr old female , I have been in my relationship with my man now fir 2 yrs and 6 months . I love him very much ! I to am going through this in our relationship , he just never wants to be intimate , I want it a lot more then him. We have talked about this and the answers I got from him were nor satisfying to me but I some what understood what he was saying . He told me that he's a little stressed about his job , he is exhausted when he gets home and it has nothing to do with me or my looks . He said he loves me but just never feels like being sexual plus he takes a medication that plays a roll in his wanting it . I am having a hard time with this being the only hurtful thing in our relationship , I have thought about cheating , I have thought about leaving . I am now seeing a counselor and I'm working on me , I began to feel uncomfortable, unloved , unattractive and my self esteem and my attitude was changing and i didn't like how I felt sad and unhappy all the time . Counseling is helping me ! I did realize that me asking for sex from him often makes him angry and i felt like I was pushing him away so now I try my hardest to just not ask . I do take care of my sexual needs by myself now when I get overly frustrated from wanting it and not getting it . It seriously does hurt the relationship . Now I'm working on me , I'm working out and I'm painting again , trying to find things to keep me busy and happy is helping and i feel better and feel better about myself as well . I do still feel like I'm unsure if this will be my future long term love of my life or just my best friend . I truly love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him , but I want to be happy and content in every way . Only time will tell because I deserve to be loved and desired and happy . My best advice on this is just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean that they don't love you . But feeling loved , appreciated and having someone give you there all is important and if you are not happy , talk , get answers , try counseling or get out . Because we all deserve to be happy and be with someone who is going to show us they love us in every way and I want nothing less . Good luck to all . Thanks , Tabitha
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