You'll have to excuse me if I don't shed a tear for all you "poor women" who are being so disrespected by her mate withholding affection/sex as some sort of manipulation tool. I mean, isn't this EXACTLY WHAT WOMEN HAVE DONE FOR DECADES TO THEIR HUSBANDS?
Seriously, I always love seeing these stories where something is a serious problem when it's a woman suffering because a man is doing something that women have done to men for generations. It's the same thing on rare occasions when women have to pay alimony after a divorce... it all becomes some egregious affront to humanity when it's a woman suffering, nevermind that men have dealt with the same BS for as long as anyone can remember.
That aside, I've been the guy withholding sex in more than one relationship in the past, and TBH, the reason was ALWAYS-- EVERY SINGLE TIME-- that she demanded to be pleased (which obviously I succeeded at since they were the ones pawing at me, not the other way around) while she did NOTHING to please me. Obviously, this makes a guy feel infuriatingly disrespected-- she got physical pleasure, got to feel intimately and passionately desired, and got emotional fulfillment (which I actually enjoy giving), but I got to do all the work while being neglected, overlooked, and for the most part went completely unfulfilled by a minimal, robotic, and hollow effort that was completely devoid of any sort of passion on their part... sorry, but just being a set of body parts to look at and play with along with holes to stick things in isn't enough to keep him truly happy, ladies.
So communicate with her, you say? Yeah, I tried that... they (i.e. MULTIPLE WOMEN from MULTIPLE RELATIONSHIPS) just fought tooth-and-nail to justify why they shouldn't have to put in more than that often not even remotely satisfying job they did... so that doesn't work. And that's all besides the fact that him telling the woman he's with that she's doing a crappy job just makes him feel like he's whining and begging to be pleased (not to mention feeling like a jerk), which no man wants to do. What's more, there's always the thought in the back of his head that if she does improve after he points it out that he's not happy and has started pulling away from her (i.e. the point where it's stopped being fun and worthwhile for him and has become more thankless work for him to do just for her default existence in his life), that she's only improving because she wants to keep the status of the relationship, or keep getting the pleasure he's been giving, not because she genuinely wants to please him and make him happy.
And you women all wonder why decent men (or at least those with a spine) have disappeared and/or don't want to court you, commit to you, or want you for anything more than pump-and-dump (and TBH, most good men don't even want you for that anymore... it's just not worth the effort for essentially the same thing he gets from masturbation-- i.e. a physical release with no emotional fulfillment)? Really?
Just to put this into perspective, I'm personally to the point now where even if I see a woman that most would consider extremely beautiful (for example, the models on Victoria's Secret commercials), all I can think about is how much of a selfish bitch she'd be when it comes to sex... and end up not feeling even passing attraction whatsoever anymore. Take that concept, and consider how I'm gonna feel about a normal, every-day, average woman... yeah.
One last sidenote just for good measure: Lingerie... LOL... what a joke... he gets to look at you all done up and put together for, what, 20-30 seconds... maybe a few minutes at most, before being demanded to snap into "please the woman mode" for a half-hour plus (usually more) while getting the same half-assed effort from you in the end? Sorry, that's a total cop-out, and you're just trying to short-cut it. Slapping on lingerie while still not putting quality effort into what you're doing to please him is like putting extra icing on a cake that's dry and tasteless. It's like putting parsley on a plate next to a steak that's not seasoned or properly prepared and has no sides, drink or dessert to go with it.
Just to make this clear, it's not your physical appearance that's the problem... it's the overall experience and lack of quality performance that you're bringing that's the problem... you can't just substitute lingerie/makeup/etc. for warmth, passion, attentiveness, and selflessly giving pleasure through proactive expressive physical contact (i.e. showing desire through action taken directly with him).
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You'll have to excuse me if I don't shed a tear for all you "poor women" who are being so disrespected by her mate withholding affection/sex as some sort of manipulation tool. I mean, isn't this EXACTLY WHAT WOMEN HAVE DONE FOR DECADES TO THEIR HUSBANDS?
Seriously, I always love seeing these stories where something is a serious problem when it's a woman suffering because a man is doing something that women have done to men for generations. It's the same thing on rare occasions when women have to pay alimony after a divorce... it all becomes some egregious affront to humanity when it's a woman suffering, nevermind that men have dealt with the same BS for as long as anyone can remember.
That aside, I've been the guy withholding sex in more than one relationship in the past, and TBH, the reason was ALWAYS-- EVERY SINGLE TIME-- that she demanded to be pleased (which obviously I succeeded at since they were the ones pawing at me, not the other way around) while she did NOTHING to please me. Obviously, this makes a guy feel infuriatingly disrespected-- she got physical pleasure, got to feel intimately and passionately desired, and got emotional fulfillment (which I actually enjoy giving), but I got to do all the work while being neglected, overlooked, and for the most part went completely unfulfilled by a minimal, robotic, and hollow effort that was completely devoid of any sort of passion on their part... sorry, but just being a set of body parts to look at and play with along with holes to stick things in isn't enough to keep him truly happy, ladies.
So communicate with her, you say? Yeah, I tried that... they (i.e. MULTIPLE WOMEN from MULTIPLE RELATIONSHIPS) just fought tooth-and-nail to justify why they shouldn't have to put in more than that often not even remotely satisfying job they did... so that doesn't work. And that's all besides the fact that him telling the woman he's with that she's doing a crappy job just makes him feel like he's whining and begging to be pleased (not to mention feeling like a jerk), which no man wants to do. What's more, there's always the thought in the back of his head that if she does improve after he points it out that he's not happy and has started pulling away from her (i.e. the point where it's stopped being fun and worthwhile for him and has become more thankless work for him to do just for her default existence in his life), that she's only improving because she wants to keep the status of the relationship, or keep getting the pleasure he's been giving, not because she genuinely wants to please him and make him happy.
And you women all wonder why decent men (or at least those with a spine) have disappeared and/or don't want to court you, commit to you, or want you for anything more than pump-and-dump (and TBH, most good men don't even want you for that anymore... it's just not worth the effort for essentially the same thing he gets from masturbation-- i.e. a physical release with no emotional fulfillment)? Really?
Just to put this into perspective, I'm personally to the point now where even if I see a woman that most would consider extremely beautiful (for example, the models on Victoria's Secret commercials), all I can think about is how much of a selfish bitch she'd be when it comes to sex... and end up not feeling even passing attraction whatsoever anymore. Take that concept, and consider how I'm gonna feel about a normal, every-day, average woman... yeah.
One last sidenote just for good measure: Lingerie... LOL... what a joke... he gets to look at you all done up and put together for, what, 20-30 seconds... maybe a few minutes at most, before being demanded to snap into "please the woman mode" for a half-hour plus (usually more) while getting the same half-assed effort from you in the end? Sorry, that's a total cop-out, and you're just trying to short-cut it. Slapping on lingerie while still not putting quality effort into what you're doing to please him is like putting extra icing on a cake that's dry and tasteless. It's like putting parsley on a plate next to a steak that's not seasoned or properly prepared and has no sides, drink or dessert to go with it.
Just to make this clear, it's not your physical appearance that's the problem... it's the overall experience and lack of quality performance that you're bringing that's the problem... you can't just substitute lingerie/makeup/etc. for warmth, passion, attentiveness, and selflessly giving pleasure through proactive expressive physical contact (i.e. showing desire through action taken directly with him).
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