This is interesting. A few years ago this happened to me.... I didn't withhold sex, I just stopped showing interest in her because of her lack of interest. I was rebuffed whenever I showed interest, so I gave up and stopped. Then she started going out with girlfriends after work for drinks, then guys and girls for drinks, then guys from work. One year on my birthday, when I tried to initiate sex, she said she couldn't...because she felt like I didn't love her anymore, and that she wanted a divorce. I went downstairs, popped a beer, thought about it, and thought "yup, she's right". We had a happy divorce, and remained friends, and 2 weeks ago she called me up to wish me happy birthday....18 years after the divorce ! Since that divorce, we moved on and I am currently madly in love with the love of my life and my forever love - a woman who I love deeply and intensely...much more so than my ex. I realize now what true love is, and I am so happy we got divorced amicably and moved on, so that we could move on and I could find my true love. So, not every divorce is sad and bitter, and sometimes when you withhold sex, it's because feelings have changed and the people have changed....in my case, it was a symptom of a failing marriage, .... and it turned out for the absolute best thing for both of us ! I am so happy we got divorced, instead of struggling to patch it up...and doing the counseling, etc. I grew from that relationship with the ex, and became stronger, more mature, stopped smoking and drinking so much, blah blah, and became the man that was strong enough, mature enough, and Godly enough to finally be the kind of "real" and "grown" man that was ready for the absolute love of my life. I am now the man that God designed me to be, and the kind of good man that can give 100% of myself to the love of my life, and be the kind of man she deserves. So, I don't think that "forcing" things is always the answer. Sometimes, maybe if we are withholding sex, we need to look at why we feel that way, and then go with our gut instinct on what to do about it. I am so damn lucky I did, and my ex did. We lucked out, and made the right decision...even without we did it all without a lick of counseling. Which was probably a mistake. But now, I have never been happier in my entire life, and now I know what true love is. It took a while to find it...I'm now 55, and yes, it was painful for a few years after the divorce, but it made me a much stronger person. It made me ready for my true love, and the woman I want to be with until the end of all time.
Good luck everybody ! Things happen for a reason, and it tends to all work out, believe it or not !
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This is interesting. A few years ago this happened to me.... I didn't withhold sex, I just stopped showing interest in her because of her lack of interest. I was rebuffed whenever I showed interest, so I gave up and stopped. Then she started going out with girlfriends after work for drinks, then guys and girls for drinks, then guys from work. One year on my birthday, when I tried to initiate sex, she said she couldn't...because she felt like I didn't love her anymore, and that she wanted a divorce. I went downstairs, popped a beer, thought about it, and thought "yup, she's right". We had a happy divorce, and remained friends, and 2 weeks ago she called me up to wish me happy birthday....18 years after the divorce ! Since that divorce, we moved on and I am currently madly in love with the love of my life and my forever love - a woman who I love deeply and intensely...much more so than my ex. I realize now what true love is, and I am so happy we got divorced amicably and moved on, so that we could move on and I could find my true love. So, not every divorce is sad and bitter, and sometimes when you withhold sex, it's because feelings have changed and the people have changed....in my case, it was a symptom of a failing marriage, .... and it turned out for the absolute best thing for both of us ! I am so happy we got divorced, instead of struggling to patch it up...and doing the counseling, etc. I grew from that relationship with the ex, and became stronger, more mature, stopped smoking and drinking so much, blah blah, and became the man that was strong enough, mature enough, and Godly enough to finally be the kind of "real" and "grown" man that was ready for the absolute love of my life. I am now the man that God designed me to be, and the kind of good man that can give 100% of myself to the love of my life, and be the kind of man she deserves. So, I don't think that "forcing" things is always the answer. Sometimes, maybe if we are withholding sex, we need to look at why we feel that way, and then go with our gut instinct on what to do about it. I am so damn lucky I did, and my ex did. We lucked out, and made the right decision...even without we did it all without a lick of counseling. Which was probably a mistake. But now, I have never been happier in my entire life, and now I know what true love is. It took a while to find it...I'm now 55, and yes, it was painful for a few years after the divorce, but it made me a much stronger person. It made me ready for my true love, and the woman I want to be with until the end of all time.
October 3, 2019 - 12:44amGood luck everybody ! Things happen for a reason, and it tends to all work out, believe it or not !
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