thanx for reply.but been there done all that you have.but remember.for 40 yrs thought[he told me]that problems were mine.as his family all seem to be a/s,and our daughters are a/s
i was the different one.yes mine turned on charm for 2 yrs fefore marriage in 1965 you did not live together.think if we had lived together would never have married.within 3 days of marriage was in shock,he became his a/s self/i suppose it was easy to put on act for 3 hrs a day.remember i was 18 and so in love.could not talk to parents,no councilling in those days.covered up for years.raised 2 aspergers kids with out anyhelp from him.after girls left home had breakdown.so began my jourey.was suggested that hubby has a/s ,researched it.bingo THE ANSWER,took 2 yrs to persuade to get diagnosis.so the last 4 yrs since his diagnosis has been real journey for us.i had C,B,T.that rebuilt my confidence,i then insisted on RELATE A/S COUNCILLING.our life is now so much better.will never be a MARRIAGE as normal people know it.but we now accept each other more.i am so much more assertive.do not crave what i now know he can never give me.he will not go and i made choice to stay.
belong to a/s wives group localy.mental health carers group localy/and run 2 face book sights [closed]for a/s wives and mums/now realize the real man is the one i live with,NOT the flirty one .the less demands i make on his time,and the more assertive i get,the better.
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thanx for reply.but been there done all that you have.but remember.for 40 yrs thought[he told me]that problems were mine.as his family all seem to be a/s,and our daughters are a/s
January 5, 2011 - 10:45ami was the different one.yes mine turned on charm for 2 yrs fefore marriage in 1965 you did not live together.think if we had lived together would never have married.within 3 days of marriage was in shock,he became his a/s self/i suppose it was easy to put on act for 3 hrs a day.remember i was 18 and so in love.could not talk to parents,no councilling in those days.covered up for years.raised 2 aspergers kids with out anyhelp from him.after girls left home had breakdown.so began my jourey.was suggested that hubby has a/s ,researched it.bingo THE ANSWER,took 2 yrs to persuade to get diagnosis.so the last 4 yrs since his diagnosis has been real journey for us.i had C,B,T.that rebuilt my confidence,i then insisted on RELATE A/S COUNCILLING.our life is now so much better.will never be a MARRIAGE as normal people know it.but we now accept each other more.i am so much more assertive.do not crave what i now know he can never give me.he will not go and i made choice to stay.
belong to a/s wives group localy.mental health carers group localy/and run 2 face book sights [closed]for a/s wives and mums/now realize the real man is the one i live with,NOT the flirty one .the less demands i make on his time,and the more assertive i get,the better.
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