How did you manage to hang in there for 40 years? I went to a support group for spouses of AS husbands while I was trying to work out whether to stay or go and I was so amazed at how balanced and accepting and not bitter the women were, except for the newbies like myself who were in the initial shock and distress stage. My ASH, having done all these courses, thought that he didn't feel any emotional pain when things were difficult because of his perceived high level of 'personal growth' but it was really due to the alexithimic component of his AS, and of course, he was byond reproach and every problem was my fault. Anyway, I'm out and my teenage daughter and I are recovering. I take my hat of to you for being there for 40 years, I wish for you that you continue to go from strength to strength within yourself.
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How did you manage to hang in there for 40 years? I went to a support group for spouses of AS husbands while I was trying to work out whether to stay or go and I was so amazed at how balanced and accepting and not bitter the women were, except for the newbies like myself who were in the initial shock and distress stage. My ASH, having done all these courses, thought that he didn't feel any emotional pain when things were difficult because of his perceived high level of 'personal growth' but it was really due to the alexithimic component of his AS, and of course, he was byond reproach and every problem was my fault. Anyway, I'm out and my teenage daughter and I are recovering. I take my hat of to you for being there for 40 years, I wish for you that you continue to go from strength to strength within yourself.
January 5, 2011 - 4:31pmThis Comment
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