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wow for so many years thought o was alone.the problem in our marriage is that my husbands siblings and mother all act same way.so every time i tried to explain how his behaviour was wrecking our marriage,he could not understand.to his whole family they act normaly/the rest of us are odd.
after his diagnosis,and aspergers couple councilling,i will no longer take the blame.i now realize i tried the best i could for yrs,so helped for councillor to tell him that his behaviour is not acceptable in a marriage.he did not argue with her.things are better now.i now stand my ground more.know now when to back off.accept his pattern of a/s behaviour,but will not tolerate bullying and will not let him dominate me.if he shows me up in public,i now tell people he has a/s.he hates this,but it works.he is not so attention seeking now in public.and i do not feel guilty anymore.since coucilling and diagnosis he does realize its a miracle we are together.i have to accept he has a/s and o.c.d. we do the best we can.but i now accept he will never,with best councilling in world,be a man who is able to offer the shared love and intimacy of a normal relationship.he does his best.but if he was blind i would not expect him to ever see.so cant expect any miracles,but we believe in our marriage.now happier and more contented.and i have only ever loved him and never even looked elsewhere.so take heart