It's not the other way around, because you sound like you have a healthy perspective on life. Your son's father does not.
"Feeling depressed" and "being diagnosed depressed" are different things. He may not have anything to be depressed about (your words), but if he IS depressed, he can have a chemical imbalance that needs to be treated. He is using (or has a history) drugs, porn, verbal abuse, alcohol as his coping mechanisms, which leads me to assume he has no healthy coping mechanisms. If he is depressed (sounds like he may be!), he needs professional help. He is at least verbally abusive to you, and also needs professional help for this aspect alone. You may want counseling as well, as being in a verbally abusive relationship is emotionally draining (at the least).
A healthy relationship has NO room for name calling, verbally abusing someone, ignoring another's concerns and feelings. That is awful, and is why you feel awful. Please..I think it would be very helpful for you to talk with a counselor. Your son's father absolutely needs to seek treatment for his coping behaviors and verbal abuse. His excuse "all men do it" is classic addictive behavior reasoning (and very immature reasoning at that). You don't really care what other men are/are not doing. You care what HE is doing, and how it is effecting HIS relationship and behaviors with YOU.
Are you able to talk with your OB/GYN about your relationship, and ask for some counseling resources?
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It's not the other way around, because you sound like you have a healthy perspective on life. Your son's father does not.
"Feeling depressed" and "being diagnosed depressed" are different things. He may not have anything to be depressed about (your words), but if he IS depressed, he can have a chemical imbalance that needs to be treated. He is using (or has a history) drugs, porn, verbal abuse, alcohol as his coping mechanisms, which leads me to assume he has no healthy coping mechanisms. If he is depressed (sounds like he may be!), he needs professional help. He is at least verbally abusive to you, and also needs professional help for this aspect alone. You may want counseling as well, as being in a verbally abusive relationship is emotionally draining (at the least).
A healthy relationship has NO room for name calling, verbally abusing someone, ignoring another's concerns and feelings. That is awful, and is why you feel awful. Please..I think it would be very helpful for you to talk with a counselor. Your son's father absolutely needs to seek treatment for his coping behaviors and verbal abuse. His excuse "all men do it" is classic addictive behavior reasoning (and very immature reasoning at that). You don't really care what other men are/are not doing. You care what HE is doing, and how it is effecting HIS relationship and behaviors with YOU.
Are you able to talk with your OB/GYN about your relationship, and ask for some counseling resources?
December 23, 2010 - 9:33pmThis Comment
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