Anon - I found the words in your "Ask" to be very disturbing. The words say your husband wants to "control you" and the question is asking whether you should "submit?" There is no mention in your comments that you personally are getting any pleasure from this or enjoy it. Are there other areas of your relationship in which he tries to "control you" and you "submit" willingly? If you are "consenting" to an intimate experience that makes you uncomfortable then you may also be signaling that you are willing to do other things that make you uncomfortable. The questions to ask yourself are - what do you want, what is comfortable and pleasurable for you, what is not acceptable for you and does your husband respect your views and needs? Hope that helps and good luck!
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Anon - I found the words in your "Ask" to be very disturbing. The words say your husband wants to "control you" and the question is asking whether you should "submit?" There is no mention in your comments that you personally are getting any pleasure from this or enjoy it. Are there other areas of your relationship in which he tries to "control you" and you "submit" willingly? If you are "consenting" to an intimate experience that makes you uncomfortable then you may also be signaling that you are willing to do other things that make you uncomfortable. The questions to ask yourself are - what do you want, what is comfortable and pleasurable for you, what is not acceptable for you and does your husband respect your views and needs? Hope that helps and good luck!
December 29, 2010 - 4:31pmThis Comment
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