Christine,
Thank you so much for your support. What I have been through is beyond confusing and I am seeing a therapist who supports me and my decisions unconditionally. I admire how strong you are and only wish that I could handle situations in the way that you do. I do realize that he abandoned me, and the worst part is he abandoned me when I needed him the most. Just that fact alone should make me want to run for hills. Pathetically, what scares me most is that I was left by someone so much younger than me, who I absolutely loved and I never would have expected him to be leaving me. I do wonder if there are any possibilities of us ever being together again. To you, what would "a guy had to drive pretty hard to make it happen" mean in my situation? The last thing I want is to end up getting invloved in the emotional pain again. So even though he sent me a message saying that he misses me, I do realize that responding to him throws me back into the situation again, leaving me most likely to be hurt if he only misses me but has no desire to be back together. Also, what do you mean by "at your age, I was pretty sure that I wasn't going to make a career out of dating anyone." Do you mean that I shouldn't be working so hard to be dating this guy? I agree with you that I need to do some soul searching and figure out what is right for me. If the roles were reversed, I never could even have the thought of leaving him after going through a termination. This is the hardest part for me, instead of realizing this for what it really is, I have been dwelling on what could have been or what will happen with this relationship. Thank you Christine for your thoughts, I appreciate your wisdom in this situation.
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Christine,
January 3, 2011 - 9:49pmThank you so much for your support. What I have been through is beyond confusing and I am seeing a therapist who supports me and my decisions unconditionally. I admire how strong you are and only wish that I could handle situations in the way that you do. I do realize that he abandoned me, and the worst part is he abandoned me when I needed him the most. Just that fact alone should make me want to run for hills. Pathetically, what scares me most is that I was left by someone so much younger than me, who I absolutely loved and I never would have expected him to be leaving me. I do wonder if there are any possibilities of us ever being together again. To you, what would "a guy had to drive pretty hard to make it happen" mean in my situation? The last thing I want is to end up getting invloved in the emotional pain again. So even though he sent me a message saying that he misses me, I do realize that responding to him throws me back into the situation again, leaving me most likely to be hurt if he only misses me but has no desire to be back together. Also, what do you mean by "at your age, I was pretty sure that I wasn't going to make a career out of dating anyone." Do you mean that I shouldn't be working so hard to be dating this guy? I agree with you that I need to do some soul searching and figure out what is right for me. If the roles were reversed, I never could even have the thought of leaving him after going through a termination. This is the hardest part for me, instead of realizing this for what it really is, I have been dwelling on what could have been or what will happen with this relationship. Thank you Christine for your thoughts, I appreciate your wisdom in this situation.
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