Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I can definitely relate to what you're going through. With that said, I am wholeheartedly sorry to hear you're in this predicament.
Relationships will always have their ups and downs -- People are not perfect, nor do we live in a utopia where everything always goes right. It's a matter of deciding for yourself what you can and what you can not handle. I'm sure your current partner has his fair share of good qualities; there is certainly a reason why you love him so much, but he obviously has misgivings as well. Everyone is like that. However, it's entirely up to you and what you are willing to sacrifice for those good qualities. In my own opinion, I believe you've put up with too much at this point. Every woman (and man!) deserves to be loved as purely as possible: to ALWAYS have it be just you, no one else, as far as your partner's romantic interests go. When things as fundamental as trust, fidelity, and faithfulness are not present in a relationship, I don't think it's worth sacrificing anything for.
As a sympathetic reader, I must express my regrets once more that you have been put in this predicament. I know what it's like to be hurt by someone but have it hurt just as bad to let them go. It's ultimately up to you to decide what you want. Basing this only on what you wrote, I believe it's best for you to end the relationship, at least romantically. If he is really that special to you, it's okay to maintain a friendship, and you never know what the future holds: maybe you're right, maybe he will change. But for now, you deserve better, and moving on will only bring about recovery and open new doors for you. I wish you the best in whatever you decide, please keep us updated if you have the inclination. :)
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daniemarie,
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I can definitely relate to what you're going through. With that said, I am wholeheartedly sorry to hear you're in this predicament.
Relationships will always have their ups and downs -- People are not perfect, nor do we live in a utopia where everything always goes right. It's a matter of deciding for yourself what you can and what you can not handle. I'm sure your current partner has his fair share of good qualities; there is certainly a reason why you love him so much, but he obviously has misgivings as well. Everyone is like that. However, it's entirely up to you and what you are willing to sacrifice for those good qualities. In my own opinion, I believe you've put up with too much at this point. Every woman (and man!) deserves to be loved as purely as possible: to ALWAYS have it be just you, no one else, as far as your partner's romantic interests go. When things as fundamental as trust, fidelity, and faithfulness are not present in a relationship, I don't think it's worth sacrificing anything for.
As a sympathetic reader, I must express my regrets once more that you have been put in this predicament. I know what it's like to be hurt by someone but have it hurt just as bad to let them go. It's ultimately up to you to decide what you want. Basing this only on what you wrote, I believe it's best for you to end the relationship, at least romantically. If he is really that special to you, it's okay to maintain a friendship, and you never know what the future holds: maybe you're right, maybe he will change. But for now, you deserve better, and moving on will only bring about recovery and open new doors for you. I wish you the best in whatever you decide, please keep us updated if you have the inclination. :)
Good luck!
January 13, 2011 - 11:45pmThis Comment
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