I think it's very wonderful to have accomplished your weight loss. Congrats to you. Unfortunately, when a man has a problem with the woman in his life because of things he wishes to control like her weight, hair, how she dresses, it never stops there. You can get to your ideal weight, say 120-135 lbs. and he may seem satisfied at first. It won't take long before he finds some other fault because people like that are never happy for long because they have a need to point out what they find as flaws. Not to be cold, but the quickest way to lose weight, is to let him go. You might find that you won't be stressed and lose the rest of weight you want to lose.
I'm not thin either, but I know how stupid men can act when I am thin, and I'm not now but I'm beautiful and sexy and smart, independent and I have a high esteem for myself. I rather be alone and happy with myself than to be with a controlling, selfish, jerk. I live to be healthy, and when I get all my weight off, I will do it for myself in my own way, in my own time.
Please don't stay involved with him if you feel like he is disrespectful of you because it seems like he is. There are many good men who will love you as is. You're not chopped liver and you should not settle for anything less. Remember, the only time you are truly alone is when you don't have God or your Highest Power you believe in. Surround yourself with people who respect and truly love you. Don't waste your time with people, even friends or family who don't have your best interests at heart. They would be frenemies.
Loving yourself and not settling opens different kinds of doors. You will find your rightful love when you let go of your unhealthy relationship because you will be free to find the right one. If you set him free, take a little time to collect yourself. Since he is a long distance relationship, it may be easier than you think. You will see what I mean. If you haven't done so, get a makeover and hair do, and move on! Sounds like you want a everyday relationship with someone who is more available to you. You need to become more available yourself. Good Luck and God Bless You and Yours.
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I think it's very wonderful to have accomplished your weight loss. Congrats to you. Unfortunately, when a man has a problem with the woman in his life because of things he wishes to control like her weight, hair, how she dresses, it never stops there. You can get to your ideal weight, say 120-135 lbs. and he may seem satisfied at first. It won't take long before he finds some other fault because people like that are never happy for long because they have a need to point out what they find as flaws. Not to be cold, but the quickest way to lose weight, is to let him go. You might find that you won't be stressed and lose the rest of weight you want to lose.
February 8, 2011 - 10:18amI'm not thin either, but I know how stupid men can act when I am thin, and I'm not now but I'm beautiful and sexy and smart, independent and I have a high esteem for myself. I rather be alone and happy with myself than to be with a controlling, selfish, jerk. I live to be healthy, and when I get all my weight off, I will do it for myself in my own way, in my own time.
Please don't stay involved with him if you feel like he is disrespectful of you because it seems like he is. There are many good men who will love you as is. You're not chopped liver and you should not settle for anything less. Remember, the only time you are truly alone is when you don't have God or your Highest Power you believe in. Surround yourself with people who respect and truly love you. Don't waste your time with people, even friends or family who don't have your best interests at heart. They would be frenemies.
Loving yourself and not settling opens different kinds of doors. You will find your rightful love when you let go of your unhealthy relationship because you will be free to find the right one. If you set him free, take a little time to collect yourself. Since he is a long distance relationship, it may be easier than you think. You will see what I mean. If you haven't done so, get a makeover and hair do, and move on! Sounds like you want a everyday relationship with someone who is more available to you. You need to become more available yourself. Good Luck and God Bless You and Yours.
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