I'm sorry you are going through this! Have you exhausted all forms of treatment? 9 years is a long time so if all other treatments have not helped at all you can definitely bring up surgery to your doctor. I know that some doctors may be hesitant and will perform surgery as a last resort but 9 years is a long time to wait for the pain to subside.
Let us know what he says and keep an open mind to a second opinion. Here is some more info from our Vulvodynia page. https://www.empowher.com/condition/vulvodynia