You are right that this is an online community for women to talk, think "out loud" and discuss alternatives.
The other part of this equation is also the response, and the community of women responding also have the right to respond with information, resources...as well as some emotion.
When you say "should I fall and say it was an accident", this does create an emotional-reaction. As the two women before posted, they have asked you questions related to clarifying your thinking, which is what a supportive environment should do: clarify questions, as well as provide feedback to let you know if your thinking may be out of the norm. Falling on purpose (we still don't know if you are referring to "falling pregnant" without your boyfriend's consent, or if you are referring to "falling while pregnant" to harm the baby)...either way, it is alarming (different from judgmental), and a good community does provide honest, open feedback.
If you would like to continue the discussion, please let us know the answers to the clarifications above. I am sorry you were offended, or hurt feelings, and felt the questions were judgmental. (I agree with you; I don't think your relationship status is relevant. I believe it was more a question of "how well you know this person" and "how committed are each of you long-term").
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You are right that this is an online community for women to talk, think "out loud" and discuss alternatives.
The other part of this equation is also the response, and the community of women responding also have the right to respond with information, resources...as well as some emotion.
When you say "should I fall and say it was an accident", this does create an emotional-reaction. As the two women before posted, they have asked you questions related to clarifying your thinking, which is what a supportive environment should do: clarify questions, as well as provide feedback to let you know if your thinking may be out of the norm. Falling on purpose (we still don't know if you are referring to "falling pregnant" without your boyfriend's consent, or if you are referring to "falling while pregnant" to harm the baby)...either way, it is alarming (different from judgmental), and a good community does provide honest, open feedback.
If you would like to continue the discussion, please let us know the answers to the clarifications above. I am sorry you were offended, or hurt feelings, and felt the questions were judgmental. (I agree with you; I don't think your relationship status is relevant. I believe it was more a question of "how well you know this person" and "how committed are each of you long-term").
February 10, 2011 - 11:02amThis Comment
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