Anonymous,
Thanks for your question and for finding EmpowHER. In addition to what Onlyoneme said, be glad you're not married to this man. In a dating relationship, you have a choice. You can deal with his behavior, or you can say, "I'm not cool with this," and decide to move on. Word of note though, if you're not cool with it, and you put up with it, or talk with him about it and it's unresolved, you are setting yourself up for more struggle down the road with this man. It is dishonest that you are checking his texts--just like him leaving out mention of a mysterious friend. Regardless of what he's doing, you can't be trusted if you can't trust. And it seems to me that this is something fundamentally wrong with this relationship. Think about it, and talk with your boyfriend in an adult manner. If you can't get past this, and get on equal and trustworthy ground with each other, you're spinning your wheels here. Good luck, I know it won't be easy. Take care of yourself.
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Anonymous,
February 25, 2011 - 8:26amThanks for your question and for finding EmpowHER. In addition to what Onlyoneme said, be glad you're not married to this man. In a dating relationship, you have a choice. You can deal with his behavior, or you can say, "I'm not cool with this," and decide to move on. Word of note though, if you're not cool with it, and you put up with it, or talk with him about it and it's unresolved, you are setting yourself up for more struggle down the road with this man. It is dishonest that you are checking his texts--just like him leaving out mention of a mysterious friend. Regardless of what he's doing, you can't be trusted if you can't trust. And it seems to me that this is something fundamentally wrong with this relationship. Think about it, and talk with your boyfriend in an adult manner. If you can't get past this, and get on equal and trustworthy ground with each other, you're spinning your wheels here. Good luck, I know it won't be easy. Take care of yourself.
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