I have been married and with this same man for 30 years and masturbation is a regular thing for us both. Not because neither of us feel we're not good enough for the other, but because it is a very satisfying and normal healthy event. We still have a very active sex life also.I actually enjoy the feeling of the bed vibrating and hearing him softly pleasuring himself.Ladies don't stress it. It's natural. Do yourself a favor and enjoy the fact he's comfortable enough to do it next to you and not hiding it.Sometimes I'm exhausted and sleep through it, but others it is very much a turn on hearing him and feeling the bed vibrate that I join him and we orgasm together and go to sleep.