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Hi Beli,
Thank you for your question and for joining EmpowHER. My opinion is that this is his problem and not yours. You are good to put so much effort into trying to help him ejaculate, but at the end of the day, if he has a medical condition (has he been do a doctor about this?), there's not a whole lot you can do about that. You are being super patient in trying to figure out what he likes and his ever-changing direction. Bear in mind, I'm not a medical professional or therapist, but I think it would personally drive me nuts--sex is supposed to be fun, and if you have to be so focused on the end result, who's having fun? If you can't relax and enjoy yourself, what's the use?
This is a relatively new relationship. How's it going besides for the issue in the bedroom? This is a good point to evaluate how happy you are and if this is a good thing for you. Once you figure that out, you'll know what to do. Talk with him, and tell him what you're thinking. If you both are adults, you should be able to reach a logical, mutually beneficial solution.
Good luck! And let us know how you are doing.