I, too, was quite surprised when I found this definition because it describes my ex to a tee and that was almost scary. Finally, I wasn't crazy, or just making things up or wondering "is it just me that thinks this is weird or wrong behaviour"?
I have come to the conclusion that he's just incapable of being able to recognize his problem, that he has a problem and be persistent in trying to change those things about himself that hurt other people. He believes as long as he didn't mean it the way people take it that that's okay. And he will never understand why you're filing for divorce because there's an emotional side of living that he just can't fathom or process.
BTW, he has already broken your marriage vows because he hasn't done what he promised he would do in the marriage covenant. I did the same because I believe in the sanctity of marriage and my kids needed a dad--although as far as helping me manage the household he didn't help a whole lot. But they also learn from his behaviour and they don't know that this is not normal or acceptable or reasonable and now they need to unlearn all that they learned from him--the only way they can do that is a healthy relationship with other "normal" male role models.
Please feel free to PM me through the EmpowHer site should you wish to talk some more.
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Thank you for sharing your story.
I, too, was quite surprised when I found this definition because it describes my ex to a tee and that was almost scary. Finally, I wasn't crazy, or just making things up or wondering "is it just me that thinks this is weird or wrong behaviour"?
I have come to the conclusion that he's just incapable of being able to recognize his problem, that he has a problem and be persistent in trying to change those things about himself that hurt other people. He believes as long as he didn't mean it the way people take it that that's okay. And he will never understand why you're filing for divorce because there's an emotional side of living that he just can't fathom or process.
BTW, he has already broken your marriage vows because he hasn't done what he promised he would do in the marriage covenant. I did the same because I believe in the sanctity of marriage and my kids needed a dad--although as far as helping me manage the household he didn't help a whole lot. But they also learn from his behaviour and they don't know that this is not normal or acceptable or reasonable and now they need to unlearn all that they learned from him--the only way they can do that is a healthy relationship with other "normal" male role models.
Please feel free to PM me through the EmpowHer site should you wish to talk some more.
May 8, 2014 - 12:42pmThis Comment
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