You're welcome. Sometimes it's empowering enough to hear someone else voice it. Even you explained your feelings to your husband and the things he does that create or cause those feelings, he probably wouldn't believe you or would just downplay them as you overreacting.
The thing with you starting to stand up to him now is that he's used to you just giving in and not fighting back. Don't let that stop you from protecting yourself emotionally from him. Keep explaining to him why you feel this way. It is extremely difficult to get a self-referenced person to take responsibility for his own actions and how they affect others, with the hope of making him see that he needs to change.
The only thing you can change is you and how you react to his behavior and treatment of you. You're on the right track. You do not deserve how he treats you and makes you feel, and whether he likes it or not (or acknowledges it or not) what he's doing is wrong and contrary to the marriage vows you and he committed to.
Please keep us posted on how you're doing. Feel free to PM me through the Empowher site if you'd like to chat some more.
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You're welcome. Sometimes it's empowering enough to hear someone else voice it. Even you explained your feelings to your husband and the things he does that create or cause those feelings, he probably wouldn't believe you or would just downplay them as you overreacting.
The thing with you starting to stand up to him now is that he's used to you just giving in and not fighting back. Don't let that stop you from protecting yourself emotionally from him. Keep explaining to him why you feel this way. It is extremely difficult to get a self-referenced person to take responsibility for his own actions and how they affect others, with the hope of making him see that he needs to change.
The only thing you can change is you and how you react to his behavior and treatment of you. You're on the right track. You do not deserve how he treats you and makes you feel, and whether he likes it or not (or acknowledges it or not) what he's doing is wrong and contrary to the marriage vows you and he committed to.
Please keep us posted on how you're doing. Feel free to PM me through the Empowher site if you'd like to chat some more.
May 21, 2014 - 12:11pmThis Comment
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