Thank you for your article, I have been in a relationship for five yrs., we were to get married but I have decided to put it off. At the start of our relationship and thru the first three yrs., things were great. Much affection both verbally and physically. But after the three years things have changed. He has withdrawn, at first I explained how I felt, he just looked at me, no response, just stared. I left him alone thinking maybe he needed time to take in what I said. I explained I was beginning to feel separated from him . He would get up the next day and acts like I never said anything. He withdrew sexually. I waited and again approached the subject, I wondered if it was work etc., he would just stare never talk. This went on for a year, me still hoping things would get better. I did the all the things you think would bring the affection back. Nothing, he is a good man as far as him supplying the needs in a household. He never yells just sits on the sofa and watches tv, I have told him its like the joy inside him has died. He just stares and says there is nothing wrong. I finally yelled and told him I can't take this anymore and like all the other times things were ok for a short time but it goes back to this way. He doesn't talk, he has told me, he's just not into showing affection. At first I thought it was me, I cried, pleaded everything, he just stares nothing is said. I feel like he shows some affection, maybe every two months just to shut me up. I now feel violated, I don't want him to come near me. Now he realizes how I feel and he's all over me. I was confused, I mean I was walking around with my thoughts, thinking its me, its me. NO its not, I just feel so drained. The problem is I feel like his mother now, taking care of a child. I'll be honest, I'm think about leaving, but part of me feels bad cause he makes a great friend but not a person to spend the rest of my life with. He has told me he can be very cold when he wants, it almost sounds like he's proud of that.
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Thank you for your article, I have been in a relationship for five yrs., we were to get married but I have decided to put it off. At the start of our relationship and thru the first three yrs., things were great. Much affection both verbally and physically. But after the three years things have changed. He has withdrawn, at first I explained how I felt, he just looked at me, no response, just stared. I left him alone thinking maybe he needed time to take in what I said. I explained I was beginning to feel separated from him . He would get up the next day and acts like I never said anything. He withdrew sexually. I waited and again approached the subject, I wondered if it was work etc., he would just stare never talk. This went on for a year, me still hoping things would get better. I did the all the things you think would bring the affection back. Nothing, he is a good man as far as him supplying the needs in a household. He never yells just sits on the sofa and watches tv, I have told him its like the joy inside him has died. He just stares and says there is nothing wrong. I finally yelled and told him I can't take this anymore and like all the other times things were ok for a short time but it goes back to this way. He doesn't talk, he has told me, he's just not into showing affection. At first I thought it was me, I cried, pleaded everything, he just stares nothing is said. I feel like he shows some affection, maybe every two months just to shut me up. I now feel violated, I don't want him to come near me. Now he realizes how I feel and he's all over me. I was confused, I mean I was walking around with my thoughts, thinking its me, its me. NO its not, I just feel so drained. The problem is I feel like his mother now, taking care of a child. I'll be honest, I'm think about leaving, but part of me feels bad cause he makes a great friend but not a person to spend the rest of my life with. He has told me he can be very cold when he wants, it almost sounds like he's proud of that.
June 24, 2014 - 4:15amThis Comment
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