I apologize for the delay in responding. I was caught up in a move to another city.
It sounds very much like my relationship with my ex. Completely oblivious to your feelings, and where you feel like you're looking after a child. I felt the same way. Very good idea to call off the wedding. This is certainly not the way I would want to spend the rest of my life.
Loving someone means going against what you're inclined to do because that's what's required and that's what your partner requires and asks--you just want to see them happy. Sounds like he has no interest in sacrificing anything of himself to make you happy. He just wants to continue looking after himself.
I have a friend who's married to a man who doesn't engage much in parenting or anything and thinks that so long as he's providing for the family financially, that's enough...and it's not, and she's spent a lot of the last 15 years trying to get him to see that. They're still married, but if there are signs that that's how he's going to be, it would scare me away.
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I apologize for the delay in responding. I was caught up in a move to another city.
It sounds very much like my relationship with my ex. Completely oblivious to your feelings, and where you feel like you're looking after a child. I felt the same way. Very good idea to call off the wedding. This is certainly not the way I would want to spend the rest of my life.
Loving someone means going against what you're inclined to do because that's what's required and that's what your partner requires and asks--you just want to see them happy. Sounds like he has no interest in sacrificing anything of himself to make you happy. He just wants to continue looking after himself.
I have a friend who's married to a man who doesn't engage much in parenting or anything and thinks that so long as he's providing for the family financially, that's enough...and it's not, and she's spent a lot of the last 15 years trying to get him to see that. They're still married, but if there are signs that that's how he's going to be, it would scare me away.
Keep us posted on what you decide.
July 22, 2014 - 11:44amThis Comment
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