I have been married for nearly fifteen (15) years. And for those of you that think he will change, good luck! I've tried it all. I am considered a strong, self reliant, go getter kinda gal. But oh boy....when it comes to my marriage I need help! In our home we are Christian, thereby believing that our God can mend marriage, and it can be done. However both parties must be willing to change. Like most of you, it seems he can change for a few months, then he goes back his old behaviors. To the public...oh my gosh!, They just think he is the sweetest guy ever! He is well liked by my friends and peers. He has no friends. He has no social life other than his kids. I am his 3rd wife (go figure) We are 14yrs difference. He is 71yrs old, and I am 56yrs old. We have no sex life, he states its his medication, he is limited to saying kind words to me. He seems to think he young and flirts with young girls. While watching TV he seems to channel surf and find movies, events with young girls. He holds me as if I'm one of the guys! Pats me on the back as if a football player, or a good ole boy! Constant remarks about over-weight people, fat people and states they are just lazy! Constant reminders of how wonderful his kids are, and how beautiful they are. Hugs and kisses his girls as if they are potential girlfriends? Ugh!!! Makes me sick to my stomach! Financially there is an issue. He is the bread winner! And constantly reminds me. I have a small business and work from home. He has told me "why don't you get a real job" that hurts! Yes ladies, I could go on and on. He is a Narcissist! Obviously I've got issues to allow this sick behavior! I'm getting help and working on self. Started gym time, swimming and working on loving self more. Its hard at times while he drools at other women in front of me. Sometimes I go to bed crying and ask God to me the courage to get out of this sick marriage. Someday I know I will!
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I have been married for nearly fifteen (15) years. And for those of you that think he will change, good luck! I've tried it all. I am considered a strong, self reliant, go getter kinda gal. But oh boy....when it comes to my marriage I need help! In our home we are Christian, thereby believing that our God can mend marriage, and it can be done. However both parties must be willing to change. Like most of you, it seems he can change for a few months, then he goes back his old behaviors. To the public...oh my gosh!, They just think he is the sweetest guy ever! He is well liked by my friends and peers. He has no friends. He has no social life other than his kids. I am his 3rd wife (go figure) We are 14yrs difference. He is 71yrs old, and I am 56yrs old. We have no sex life, he states its his medication, he is limited to saying kind words to me. He seems to think he young and flirts with young girls. While watching TV he seems to channel surf and find movies, events with young girls. He holds me as if I'm one of the guys! Pats me on the back as if a football player, or a good ole boy! Constant remarks about over-weight people, fat people and states they are just lazy! Constant reminders of how wonderful his kids are, and how beautiful they are. Hugs and kisses his girls as if they are potential girlfriends? Ugh!!! Makes me sick to my stomach! Financially there is an issue. He is the bread winner! And constantly reminds me. I have a small business and work from home. He has told me "why don't you get a real job" that hurts! Yes ladies, I could go on and on. He is a Narcissist! Obviously I've got issues to allow this sick behavior! I'm getting help and working on self. Started gym time, swimming and working on loving self more. Its hard at times while he drools at other women in front of me. Sometimes I go to bed crying and ask God to me the courage to get out of this sick marriage. Someday I know I will!
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