I'm a Christian too. And while I believe that God has the power and can heal a marriage, He doesn't always. That's not His plan for everyone. Thankfully, it wasn't in His plan for me. You can work on changing you and making you a better person. The problem with someone with this kind of personality is he doesn't realize how destructive he's being to everyone else and denies that he has any sort of problem or that he needs help or that he needs to change. It's part of the personality that they're incapable of understanding and it's a waste of time trying to explain it to them because they'll always have sort of excuse as to why they do what they do. They'll never take responsibility for their actions or inactions. Eventually I stopped explaining what I needed from my husband and how he was making me feel because it never made a difference. He never truly got it.
Loving someone else means self-sacrifice sometimes to provide what they need from you as a partner. As much as you try to set the example, as I did, they just don't get it and think everything is fine, meanwhile your heart and soul is neglected and basically withering away and dying. Mine was.
I will pray for strength, comfort, courage and wisdom for you. At least as a Christian you know you have someone you can lean on and cling to for what you need day-to-day. Make sure you keep a healthy prayer life, that will keep you connected. I know my heart and soul suffers when I miss doing my prayer journal for a couple of days even when I tell myself "I don't need to do it today". Learn to count your blessings every day as well, that will help your mind and spirit looking at the positives, which goes a long way believe it or not to keeping you sane. I will also pray that the Lord will show you a way out, if that is His plan for you and if it isn't that He will give you the strength and encouragement to carry on.
Please keep us posted on what happens. You can send me a PM through EmpowHER site, as well. You're not alone in this.
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I'm a Christian too. And while I believe that God has the power and can heal a marriage, He doesn't always. That's not His plan for everyone. Thankfully, it wasn't in His plan for me. You can work on changing you and making you a better person. The problem with someone with this kind of personality is he doesn't realize how destructive he's being to everyone else and denies that he has any sort of problem or that he needs help or that he needs to change. It's part of the personality that they're incapable of understanding and it's a waste of time trying to explain it to them because they'll always have sort of excuse as to why they do what they do. They'll never take responsibility for their actions or inactions. Eventually I stopped explaining what I needed from my husband and how he was making me feel because it never made a difference. He never truly got it.
Loving someone else means self-sacrifice sometimes to provide what they need from you as a partner. As much as you try to set the example, as I did, they just don't get it and think everything is fine, meanwhile your heart and soul is neglected and basically withering away and dying. Mine was.
I will pray for strength, comfort, courage and wisdom for you. At least as a Christian you know you have someone you can lean on and cling to for what you need day-to-day. Make sure you keep a healthy prayer life, that will keep you connected. I know my heart and soul suffers when I miss doing my prayer journal for a couple of days even when I tell myself "I don't need to do it today". Learn to count your blessings every day as well, that will help your mind and spirit looking at the positives, which goes a long way believe it or not to keeping you sane. I will also pray that the Lord will show you a way out, if that is His plan for you and if it isn't that He will give you the strength and encouragement to carry on.
Please keep us posted on what happens. You can send me a PM through EmpowHER site, as well. You're not alone in this.
Hugs,
Darlene
August 9, 2014 - 5:23amThis Comment
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