I have come to realize that I am in a 25 year emotionally and sexually abusive relationship. It has become clear to me in the last three years as I sought Counselling for alcoholism. In a matter if six months I had discovered alcohol could help me remove myself mentally from the relationship - especially in the mandatory nightly bedroom activity. Adding to my emotional turmoil is a brutal rape six months prior to out marriage. The nightly marital sex felt like rape every day.
My husband read Gary Chapmans 5 Love Languages three weeks ago as a result of having no sex since a counselor and I imposed a celibacy agreement six months ago.
My husband claims to have had an awakening, he is deeply sorrowed at the abusive way he treated me for so long and wants a chance to change. He is a control addict as well. We have five children - ages 7 to 21. Can he change and what is best for the children? He has also been emotionally abusive to them. But I don't know if it's better or worse to ask him it leave the family?
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I have come to realize that I am in a 25 year emotionally and sexually abusive relationship. It has become clear to me in the last three years as I sought Counselling for alcoholism. In a matter if six months I had discovered alcohol could help me remove myself mentally from the relationship - especially in the mandatory nightly bedroom activity. Adding to my emotional turmoil is a brutal rape six months prior to out marriage. The nightly marital sex felt like rape every day.
October 23, 2014 - 8:33pmMy husband read Gary Chapmans 5 Love Languages three weeks ago as a result of having no sex since a counselor and I imposed a celibacy agreement six months ago.
My husband claims to have had an awakening, he is deeply sorrowed at the abusive way he treated me for so long and wants a chance to change. He is a control addict as well. We have five children - ages 7 to 21. Can he change and what is best for the children? He has also been emotionally abusive to them. But I don't know if it's better or worse to ask him it leave the family?
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