My husband and I have been married for 40 years this year, and together for 41. I know I am emotionally abused, but I can cope. My husband's parents were great people. His father died in 1998 and his mother is still alive and we see her regularly. My husband abuses me all the time, he shouts for no reason at all. We have conversations at cross purposes and, because I have not realised what he meant, he screams at me. He likes to thump his fists down on the table. When he does this, I just leave the room and just stay away from him. What is hard is the fact that I take a long time to come to the boil, and very rarely lose my temple (possibly only twice in 40 years) however he screams and shouts at me and ten minutes later has forgotten what he has just done and acts like nothing happened. He tells me that he tells other people that we never argue. He is right in that he shouts and I keep quiet. I remember when my kids were younger they used to look to me to check what the weather was like at home. I would give them that "walk on eggshells" look or speak normally so they would know it was all okay. My youngest, my daughter, is very much like her father in that when he shouts, she shouts back and I envy her ability to do so. I have no idea why he is like he is, he is just such an angry person and can go off in a flash, for no reason at all. I have to say, it is nice to vent. I don't think I will ever leave as I cannot imagine being anywhere else, and I have neither the energy nor the inclination to start all over again at 60 years of age. I am too tired. I just hope that eventually I will have peace and quiet. Not too much to ask is it?
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My husband and I have been married for 40 years this year, and together for 41. I know I am emotionally abused, but I can cope. My husband's parents were great people. His father died in 1998 and his mother is still alive and we see her regularly. My husband abuses me all the time, he shouts for no reason at all. We have conversations at cross purposes and, because I have not realised what he meant, he screams at me. He likes to thump his fists down on the table. When he does this, I just leave the room and just stay away from him. What is hard is the fact that I take a long time to come to the boil, and very rarely lose my temple (possibly only twice in 40 years) however he screams and shouts at me and ten minutes later has forgotten what he has just done and acts like nothing happened. He tells me that he tells other people that we never argue. He is right in that he shouts and I keep quiet. I remember when my kids were younger they used to look to me to check what the weather was like at home. I would give them that "walk on eggshells" look or speak normally so they would know it was all okay. My youngest, my daughter, is very much like her father in that when he shouts, she shouts back and I envy her ability to do so. I have no idea why he is like he is, he is just such an angry person and can go off in a flash, for no reason at all. I have to say, it is nice to vent. I don't think I will ever leave as I cannot imagine being anywhere else, and I have neither the energy nor the inclination to start all over again at 60 years of age. I am too tired. I just hope that eventually I will have peace and quiet. Not too much to ask is it?
January 19, 2015 - 1:22pmThis Comment
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