I'm 29 years old and have been married for 5 years! When things are fine,my husband is the sweetest person one can wish for, yet when we have an argument he turns into a cruel,cold hearted and inhuman person that I can not believe exists on this planet!
Over the years I noticed he has a strange relation towards arguments in a sense that he doesn't argue constructively and he sees us as enemies during a conflict. Most of the time arguments arise from deeper conversations when I speak my mind or show criticism towards some of his behaviour. Unable to accept any of that and reacting defensively while trying to offend me in any possible way even if topic-unrelated, I am on the bottom of my existence! Constant invalidation, disrespect and the fact that my pain was never acknowledged has left me feel worthless, lonely, depressed and on the verge of going insane.
I have given up my family, career friends to move 20 000 km across the world to be with him. Now I'm isolated lonely and deprived of affection and respect.
I have cried for days now due an argument we had! I was depressed and he initiated the conversation, as I opened up he basically ignored me and immediately started to tell me it's not the way I see things and started insulting me by telling me how ungrateful I am as he had given me shopping money even though I deserve zero because I don't work. This had absolutely nothing to do with the issue as the topic was that I feel invalidated and not taken seriously!
He ignored me in further attempts of conversations and I cry all day he just ignores me or goes somewhere! He always insists that he loves me and that he wants to know what I feel but when I open up he becomes defensive and I just can't deal with it anymore! I'm at my lowest and am considering to pack my stuff and fly home!
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I'm 29 years old and have been married for 5 years! When things are fine,my husband is the sweetest person one can wish for, yet when we have an argument he turns into a cruel,cold hearted and inhuman person that I can not believe exists on this planet!
February 3, 2015 - 12:22amOver the years I noticed he has a strange relation towards arguments in a sense that he doesn't argue constructively and he sees us as enemies during a conflict. Most of the time arguments arise from deeper conversations when I speak my mind or show criticism towards some of his behaviour. Unable to accept any of that and reacting defensively while trying to offend me in any possible way even if topic-unrelated, I am on the bottom of my existence! Constant invalidation, disrespect and the fact that my pain was never acknowledged has left me feel worthless, lonely, depressed and on the verge of going insane.
I have given up my family, career friends to move 20 000 km across the world to be with him. Now I'm isolated lonely and deprived of affection and respect.
I have cried for days now due an argument we had! I was depressed and he initiated the conversation, as I opened up he basically ignored me and immediately started to tell me it's not the way I see things and started insulting me by telling me how ungrateful I am as he had given me shopping money even though I deserve zero because I don't work. This had absolutely nothing to do with the issue as the topic was that I feel invalidated and not taken seriously!
He ignored me in further attempts of conversations and I cry all day he just ignores me or goes somewhere! He always insists that he loves me and that he wants to know what I feel but when I open up he becomes defensive and I just can't deal with it anymore! I'm at my lowest and am considering to pack my stuff and fly home!
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