i have been asking myself ever since i had kids, what is my limit and whether something is abnormal in my marriage. my husband thinks i have been cooking everything in my head and everything is in my mind. he tells me to shut down if he isnt in a good mood and i am told to not anger him. so i walk on eggshells at home. whenever i try to tell him about it he says that i am hurting him and that i also do this and that, never acknowleading my feelings or what the problems. he thinks it is always other people pressing his buttons..and that he could have done a better job as a father except for me, as I am of no help. i feel totally put down and my self esteem has suffered a lot. he likes to tell me that i am very lucky for having him , as he feels he is very intelligent etc. he tends to put me down but not as bad as his father as he puts my mil down all the time and ties up her finances extremely. he still writes me nicer cards once in a blue moon.
to be honest i have lost some trust and faith in this man who promised to love me, and i am very sad and broken to feel this way about a man whom i vowed to be with for my whole life. i am a stay at home mom not sure if working will do us good. have two small children. we went for counselling and talks before but he wasnt interested to follow up with the homework.
have been trying to keep the family together. he blows up at the kids too. and i have been stopping him until recently told by my inlaws to let him be.
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i have been asking myself ever since i had kids, what is my limit and whether something is abnormal in my marriage. my husband thinks i have been cooking everything in my head and everything is in my mind. he tells me to shut down if he isnt in a good mood and i am told to not anger him. so i walk on eggshells at home. whenever i try to tell him about it he says that i am hurting him and that i also do this and that, never acknowleading my feelings or what the problems. he thinks it is always other people pressing his buttons..and that he could have done a better job as a father except for me, as I am of no help. i feel totally put down and my self esteem has suffered a lot. he likes to tell me that i am very lucky for having him , as he feels he is very intelligent etc. he tends to put me down but not as bad as his father as he puts my mil down all the time and ties up her finances extremely. he still writes me nicer cards once in a blue moon.
March 2, 2015 - 7:56amto be honest i have lost some trust and faith in this man who promised to love me, and i am very sad and broken to feel this way about a man whom i vowed to be with for my whole life. i am a stay at home mom not sure if working will do us good. have two small children. we went for counselling and talks before but he wasnt interested to follow up with the homework.
have been trying to keep the family together. he blows up at the kids too. and i have been stopping him until recently told by my inlaws to let him be.
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