You did what you thought was right, please don't be so hard on yourself. It's often the nicest and most forgiving of souls that end up in these controlling relationships - and if our family of origin had issues, then these toxic people are familiar to us. Sometimes it's because we can see the good in others and think we can help, change and guide them along the way. Once we realize the only thing we can control is our behavior, we start using boundaries and ending the cycle. This is exactly the toxic aspect of emotional and verbal abuse that leaves us blindsided and second guessing our worth - the words, insults and attacks are something that linger...until we heal. AND then we see the pattern, the never-ending demands and realize it's our job to take care of ourselves. Just like you Anon, just like you - you've done it and you are healing, you can't make logic out of something illogical so know that you are strong, brave and on the path to healing:)
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You did what you thought was right, please don't be so hard on yourself. It's often the nicest and most forgiving of souls that end up in these controlling relationships - and if our family of origin had issues, then these toxic people are familiar to us. Sometimes it's because we can see the good in others and think we can help, change and guide them along the way. Once we realize the only thing we can control is our behavior, we start using boundaries and ending the cycle. This is exactly the toxic aspect of emotional and verbal abuse that leaves us blindsided and second guessing our worth - the words, insults and attacks are something that linger...until we heal. AND then we see the pattern, the never-ending demands and realize it's our job to take care of ourselves. Just like you Anon, just like you - you've done it and you are healing, you can't make logic out of something illogical so know that you are strong, brave and on the path to healing:)
September 26, 2015 - 7:25amThis Comment
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