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I know that was hard for you to share and I think you are very brave. Here's the hard part - you are in a dangerous situation that will only escalate and get worse as time goes on. This has nothing to do with love. It has nothing to do with how you spend your money or how you take care of him. You are in a cycle of abuse that is a pattern of behavior that continues to escalate. I would strongly recommend counseling for you so you can gain some strength to get out of this relationship and move on. Let's not worry if he's happy or if he needs anything or if you can help him because this is part of the abuse. You can't cajole, rationalize, talk or love him out of this. In fact, the loving thing to do for both of you is to end this relationship, he will never get better while you are with him because he is able to continue this manipulative pattern. This is not how love works. I've been there, it's heartbreaking and hard and exhausting but OH so worth it - I promise you, you'll heal and move on, but you need to go. Stay safe and stay strong. We are all right with you. Hugs.