As a man whose parents divorced when I was young, NO you children will not understand. They will be confused and blame themselves, and will grow up liking one of you more than the other. If he is a better father than he is a husband then you should sacrifice your happiness until your children are old enough to understand, or out of the house. Your children are your life now, you do not have the luxery of making selfish decisions for you or him.
You don't have to pretend to like the man, as long as you don't bad mouth each other to the children or let them get involved in your fights, just put your troubles on hold until the kids get older, then you can divorce and go your separate ways, both of you staying in good communication and relations with your children, just separately.
We as humans don't live for ourselves or our happiness, we live for our children and our children's happiness. You owe it to them to keep both parents nearby and dear to them.
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As a man whose parents divorced when I was young, NO you children will not understand. They will be confused and blame themselves, and will grow up liking one of you more than the other. If he is a better father than he is a husband then you should sacrifice your happiness until your children are old enough to understand, or out of the house. Your children are your life now, you do not have the luxery of making selfish decisions for you or him.
You don't have to pretend to like the man, as long as you don't bad mouth each other to the children or let them get involved in your fights, just put your troubles on hold until the kids get older, then you can divorce and go your separate ways, both of you staying in good communication and relations with your children, just separately.
We as humans don't live for ourselves or our happiness, we live for our children and our children's happiness. You owe it to them to keep both parents nearby and dear to them.
March 19, 2016 - 9:27amThis Comment
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