It is a double edged sword. He is nice in several ways. He doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs. He is a hard worker. He supports me 100% on my new business venture. He tells me I am beautiful and that I complement him in every way and that he would marry me tomorrow.
I don't know what he does on the computer. We each have our own computer and our own passwords. Yes, I could find out his password I suppose and break into his computer, but is that the ethical thing to do I ask myself? He said he does not masturbate to the pictures that he wouldn't waste his time like that when he has the real thing, me. All I can think of is that he has them for his porn stash to look at.
When we showed his folks the trip pictures, of course, those pictures of the other women were not included. I was tempted to print them out and show them to them so they could see what their son is doing. I know, everyone says to protect the parents, but maybe they need to step in and confront him about what he is doing with his voyueristic picture taking.
His other two problems are that he ogles other women, looking them up and down behind his sunglasses, trying to call attention to himself in some manner in hopes of a pretty will notice him, say at a restuarant, like chatting up the local waitress to get him to say his name loud enough. Then his body will become relaxed more open too. He'll ask for more coffee to linger. Normally he never lingers over coffee only to have a few more glances at another female. It's subtle, but I catch it all. I don't miss a beat. I analyze every nuance. There are several other examples of this behavior, the rubbernecking, going in for a closer look.
The second problem is telling me how beautiful other women are, be it a co-worker, his ex-girlfriends or some random woman on the street. This happens almost every day until I told him to knock it off. I think he wanted me to be jealous.
I don't think a boyfriend, fiance or husband goes around snapping pictures of other women when they are on vacation with their siginificant other. It doesn't appear to be the "normal" thing to do. It is disrespectful at best, but then it makes me think it could be an addiction too if they are willing to risk the relationship they are in to continue in this manner or maybe in hopes of finding a partner that will look the other way and accept it so that they can quietly continue to do this, hence him not hiding the pictures from me or maybe he really wants me to break up with him.
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It is a double edged sword. He is nice in several ways. He doesn't drink, smoke or do drugs. He is a hard worker. He supports me 100% on my new business venture. He tells me I am beautiful and that I complement him in every way and that he would marry me tomorrow.
I don't know what he does on the computer. We each have our own computer and our own passwords. Yes, I could find out his password I suppose and break into his computer, but is that the ethical thing to do I ask myself? He said he does not masturbate to the pictures that he wouldn't waste his time like that when he has the real thing, me. All I can think of is that he has them for his porn stash to look at.
When we showed his folks the trip pictures, of course, those pictures of the other women were not included. I was tempted to print them out and show them to them so they could see what their son is doing. I know, everyone says to protect the parents, but maybe they need to step in and confront him about what he is doing with his voyueristic picture taking.
His other two problems are that he ogles other women, looking them up and down behind his sunglasses, trying to call attention to himself in some manner in hopes of a pretty will notice him, say at a restuarant, like chatting up the local waitress to get him to say his name loud enough. Then his body will become relaxed more open too. He'll ask for more coffee to linger. Normally he never lingers over coffee only to have a few more glances at another female. It's subtle, but I catch it all. I don't miss a beat. I analyze every nuance. There are several other examples of this behavior, the rubbernecking, going in for a closer look.
The second problem is telling me how beautiful other women are, be it a co-worker, his ex-girlfriends or some random woman on the street. This happens almost every day until I told him to knock it off. I think he wanted me to be jealous.
I don't think a boyfriend, fiance or husband goes around snapping pictures of other women when they are on vacation with their siginificant other. It doesn't appear to be the "normal" thing to do. It is disrespectful at best, but then it makes me think it could be an addiction too if they are willing to risk the relationship they are in to continue in this manner or maybe in hopes of finding a partner that will look the other way and accept it so that they can quietly continue to do this, hence him not hiding the pictures from me or maybe he really wants me to break up with him.
April 25, 2011 - 1:43pmThis Comment
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