I wholeheartedly agree with what Susan has said to you.
We will never tell you to break up with someone unless you were in a physical or emotionally abusive relationship.
Ending your relationship is entirely up to you-- are you willing to live with this? You aren't yet married and have only known this man for two years-- there is still a lot more to learn about him and it's not to say that you will agree with his past or his habits.
His behavior is at the very least disrespectful but to me, it's more like what you described as "creepy". A 50 year old man should not be snapping pictures of any stranger in a bikini let alone teenage girls. Putting my 15 year old niece in one of those girls shoes-- if I caught a man snapping pictures of her, charges would be pressed. So, would I take the chance of later possibly discovering more "creepy" behavior-- probably not.
If you love him and are willing to accept this behavior (because he didn't sound apologetic when you brought it up) then it is something you're likely to have to deal with throughout your relationship. My advice to you is that if this isn't settling well with you then you have a lot of thinking to do and a decision to be made. Sorry you're in a tough situation.
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Hi KLT,
I wholeheartedly agree with what Susan has said to you.
We will never tell you to break up with someone unless you were in a physical or emotionally abusive relationship.
Ending your relationship is entirely up to you-- are you willing to live with this? You aren't yet married and have only known this man for two years-- there is still a lot more to learn about him and it's not to say that you will agree with his past or his habits.
His behavior is at the very least disrespectful but to me, it's more like what you described as "creepy". A 50 year old man should not be snapping pictures of any stranger in a bikini let alone teenage girls. Putting my 15 year old niece in one of those girls shoes-- if I caught a man snapping pictures of her, charges would be pressed. So, would I take the chance of later possibly discovering more "creepy" behavior-- probably not.
If you love him and are willing to accept this behavior (because he didn't sound apologetic when you brought it up) then it is something you're likely to have to deal with throughout your relationship. My advice to you is that if this isn't settling well with you then you have a lot of thinking to do and a decision to be made. Sorry you're in a tough situation.
Rosa
April 25, 2011 - 5:39pmThis Comment
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