Hi Katie May,
Thank you for sharing your story and I am sorry to hear your having such difficulty with your partner. One of the first things I will mention about your post, is try not to harbor your own disappointment in him with regard to calling him names (gay). Name calling never seems to solve anything and so many of us start name calling when we get frustrated and have no other way to communicate our frustration.
If your questioning your loyalty to him due to the lack of sexual contact, you should certainly voice this opinion to him and have a heart to heart talk about the possibility of trying everything to make the relationship work or walking away. These are two possibilities that only you two can make a decision about. Perhaps he is really gay and he is having a hard time dealing with those feelings. In any case, you need to know. Communication between you and him is key and trying to get him to speak to you in a non-confrontational way is important. The reality of "if your relationship is moving forward, stuck in a rut or needs to be abolished" are the answers you need and only you and him can come to that conclusion. Talk to him...
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Hi Katie May,
Thank you for sharing your story and I am sorry to hear your having such difficulty with your partner. One of the first things I will mention about your post, is try not to harbor your own disappointment in him with regard to calling him names (gay). Name calling never seems to solve anything and so many of us start name calling when we get frustrated and have no other way to communicate our frustration.
If your questioning your loyalty to him due to the lack of sexual contact, you should certainly voice this opinion to him and have a heart to heart talk about the possibility of trying everything to make the relationship work or walking away. These are two possibilities that only you two can make a decision about. Perhaps he is really gay and he is having a hard time dealing with those feelings. In any case, you need to know. Communication between you and him is key and trying to get him to speak to you in a non-confrontational way is important. The reality of "if your relationship is moving forward, stuck in a rut or needs to be abolished" are the answers you need and only you and him can come to that conclusion. Talk to him...
I hope this helps and keep us posted.
May 22, 2011 - 8:54amMissie
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