I would first like to say, I am ecstatic that I have found a place where I can express how I feel and actually receive feedback! Both of your words have been helpful.
However, as someone who always over analyzes here are some reasons I put blame on for our lack of intimacy.
When we first met, I caught my boyfriend sending pictures of himself... down there... to other girls over the internet. Then six months down the road I caught him doing it again. Is this something that men do because of a lack of ego, I cannot wrap my mind around why men do this. Sometime I wonder if I should have ended things the first time I caught him. I seem to always be feeling unstable, constantly checking his email and blackberry (which he has given me permission to do).
Another reason I feel we may lack intimacy is because of how I look down there. My labia isn't that perfect and tiny, I know it's not abnormally large or anything yetI always feel I'm trying to compensate by keeping a pristine body elsewhere and ever since I was young I've wanted a reduction. Is this just a self esteem thing or are some men actually turned off by it?
Another self-esteem issue I have is that I get wet... really wet. Even if I'm just a little bit turned on. May this be a turn off?
Are maybe me and my boyfriend too comfortable with eachother? Should I be making more of an effort to keep my make-up and hair done rather than putting on my PJ's in the afternoon?
Lastly, I have been told by my doctor that his penis is actually too large for me and bangs and bruises my cervix so the once in a while we do have sex I am always in pain (although don't mention it often) but we have discussed this pain and it actually compromises our sex-life and what positions we are able to do etc.
When we do have sex, it always seems like a race to finish...
I know there are a lot of new questions arising in my comment, but appreciate any and all feedback.
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I would first like to say, I am ecstatic that I have found a place where I can express how I feel and actually receive feedback! Both of your words have been helpful.
June 2, 2011 - 10:30amHowever, as someone who always over analyzes here are some reasons I put blame on for our lack of intimacy.
When we first met, I caught my boyfriend sending pictures of himself... down there... to other girls over the internet. Then six months down the road I caught him doing it again. Is this something that men do because of a lack of ego, I cannot wrap my mind around why men do this. Sometime I wonder if I should have ended things the first time I caught him. I seem to always be feeling unstable, constantly checking his email and blackberry (which he has given me permission to do).
Another reason I feel we may lack intimacy is because of how I look down there. My labia isn't that perfect and tiny, I know it's not abnormally large or anything yetI always feel I'm trying to compensate by keeping a pristine body elsewhere and ever since I was young I've wanted a reduction. Is this just a self esteem thing or are some men actually turned off by it?
Another self-esteem issue I have is that I get wet... really wet. Even if I'm just a little bit turned on. May this be a turn off?
Are maybe me and my boyfriend too comfortable with eachother? Should I be making more of an effort to keep my make-up and hair done rather than putting on my PJ's in the afternoon?
Lastly, I have been told by my doctor that his penis is actually too large for me and bangs and bruises my cervix so the once in a while we do have sex I am always in pain (although don't mention it often) but we have discussed this pain and it actually compromises our sex-life and what positions we are able to do etc.
When we do have sex, it always seems like a race to finish...
I know there are a lot of new questions arising in my comment, but appreciate any and all feedback.
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