Hi samartha,
While I think lubrication and personal exploration is a great place to start physically, I'd agree with mena and say you might consider journaling your own thoughts about sex and what you're feeling when you have it (before, during, after) first. Remind yourself why you love your husband, what attracts you to him. Think about what arouses you, personally. Like someone above suggested, foreplay (and masturbation) can help your body relax and help you become more open to pleasure. After all, you deserve it!
At risk of sounding crude, open is the key word. If you are open to what you desire sexually, if you're open to learning how your body reacts to different images, sounds, smells, touches, positions, if you're open to communicating your needs to your husband and if you're open to getting help if/where/when you need it (physician, gynecologist, therapist, sexologist, communities like these, books), I expect you'll find success. Just have fun exploring and finding what feels best for you. I have to think your husband will be pleased when you're pleased. Best of luck in your journey together!
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Hi samartha,
While I think lubrication and personal exploration is a great place to start physically, I'd agree with mena and say you might consider journaling your own thoughts about sex and what you're feeling when you have it (before, during, after) first. Remind yourself why you love your husband, what attracts you to him. Think about what arouses you, personally. Like someone above suggested, foreplay (and masturbation) can help your body relax and help you become more open to pleasure. After all, you deserve it!
At risk of sounding crude, open is the key word. If you are open to what you desire sexually, if you're open to learning how your body reacts to different images, sounds, smells, touches, positions, if you're open to communicating your needs to your husband and if you're open to getting help if/where/when you need it (physician, gynecologist, therapist, sexologist, communities like these, books), I expect you'll find success. Just have fun exploring and finding what feels best for you. I have to think your husband will be pleased when you're pleased. Best of luck in your journey together!
June 19, 2011 - 6:21pmThis Comment
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