You do have a lot going on in your relationship right now, and I'm glad to hear that you are trying to gain some new perspective.
I am unclear exactly on what your knowledge is regarding your boyfriend's STDs, but HPV (genital warts) can be cleared (as you said, he's "recovered") by the body. However, herpes does not have a cure, and although he is on medication that is helping to reduce symptoms, he will always be a carrier of herpes and can infect another partner.
If your boyfriend was diagnosed 6 months ago, and you have been together for 18 months, I am confused why you are asking if he cheated on you, but you also said "it is obvious" where he got the STD from. It sounds like you are now infected, too, and on medication. A person who is symptomatic with STDs will show symptoms within 1-2 months, sometimes just a few weeks, so yes, it does sound like he had other sexual encounters during his relationship with you. Is this something you already know, as I am not clear on your understanding of STDs.
I can't help but ask: are you extremely mad about him infecting you with an STD? An STD for a woman can be life-threatening, it can cause infertility and many other health problems. You sound like you are still trying to please him, allowing him to "tolerate" your mood swings. Are you kidding?! I am truly surprised that you do not think you deserve better than this. A man who cheats on you, infects you with life-altering diseases has the nerve to "tolerate" you, and you think this is an OK relationship? Now he is cold, not giving you much attention. I am not sure what your ideal relationship is, but maybe this is the time to think about what type of relationship you expect for your future. You deserve so much better than this, don't you think?
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You do have a lot going on in your relationship right now, and I'm glad to hear that you are trying to gain some new perspective.
I am unclear exactly on what your knowledge is regarding your boyfriend's STDs, but HPV (genital warts) can be cleared (as you said, he's "recovered") by the body. However, herpes does not have a cure, and although he is on medication that is helping to reduce symptoms, he will always be a carrier of herpes and can infect another partner.
If your boyfriend was diagnosed 6 months ago, and you have been together for 18 months, I am confused why you are asking if he cheated on you, but you also said "it is obvious" where he got the STD from. It sounds like you are now infected, too, and on medication. A person who is symptomatic with STDs will show symptoms within 1-2 months, sometimes just a few weeks, so yes, it does sound like he had other sexual encounters during his relationship with you. Is this something you already know, as I am not clear on your understanding of STDs.
I can't help but ask: are you extremely mad about him infecting you with an STD? An STD for a woman can be life-threatening, it can cause infertility and many other health problems. You sound like you are still trying to please him, allowing him to "tolerate" your mood swings. Are you kidding?! I am truly surprised that you do not think you deserve better than this. A man who cheats on you, infects you with life-altering diseases has the nerve to "tolerate" you, and you think this is an OK relationship? Now he is cold, not giving you much attention. I am not sure what your ideal relationship is, but maybe this is the time to think about what type of relationship you expect for your future. You deserve so much better than this, don't you think?
July 10, 2011 - 7:57amThis Comment
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