First of all, kudos to you for even talking about your active sex life-- many people would never admit to this. It certainly sounds like you're taking a step in the right direction-- you have openly admitted that you've had more sexual partners than you would like to in your short 19 years of life and it is very mature of you to decide that this is no longer the life you want to have. Sexual Addiction is a diagnosis best left to someone else to make. I won't call you an addict, it's got a negative connotation and we're trying to be uplifting :)
I know you think that talking about it with a psychologist may not be enough-- but understand that by talking to a trained professional, s/he will dig deeper as to why you started to have casual sex in the first place. Sometimes we need help to see the big picture; to understand why it is that we make these decisions. For example, sometimes when we don't have a father figure in our lives we replace them with other men that are meant to fulfill that need but in reality don't, or if someone has been hurt by someone that they once truly loved-- a guard is put up to avoid getting hurt again. Every single thing that occurs in our lives, whether it's in our childhood or as adults, will impact the person we ultimately become. This doesn't mean that things can't change...as human beings, we are constantly evolving and this is where you are at now. You can and will change-- simply because no one made you look for help, you're doing this on your own and you are young enough to turn your life around completely. You will need a professional to help guide you in the right direction, to help you find the real reason behind having casual sex, and from there on you will determine, on your own, that having multiple sex partners is not necessary of fulfilling. If you need help finding a therapist, let us know what area you're in and whether or not you have health insurance and we can help you find someone that can best help you.
If you have any other questions that we can help you with, let us know and please keep us posted with your progress.
Here are some resources that may help in the meantime:
http://www.sexhelp.com/
http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm
http://www.sexaa.org/
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Hi Bashful,
First of all, kudos to you for even talking about your active sex life-- many people would never admit to this. It certainly sounds like you're taking a step in the right direction-- you have openly admitted that you've had more sexual partners than you would like to in your short 19 years of life and it is very mature of you to decide that this is no longer the life you want to have. Sexual Addiction is a diagnosis best left to someone else to make. I won't call you an addict, it's got a negative connotation and we're trying to be uplifting :)
I know you think that talking about it with a psychologist may not be enough-- but understand that by talking to a trained professional, s/he will dig deeper as to why you started to have casual sex in the first place. Sometimes we need help to see the big picture; to understand why it is that we make these decisions. For example, sometimes when we don't have a father figure in our lives we replace them with other men that are meant to fulfill that need but in reality don't, or if someone has been hurt by someone that they once truly loved-- a guard is put up to avoid getting hurt again. Every single thing that occurs in our lives, whether it's in our childhood or as adults, will impact the person we ultimately become. This doesn't mean that things can't change...as human beings, we are constantly evolving and this is where you are at now. You can and will change-- simply because no one made you look for help, you're doing this on your own and you are young enough to turn your life around completely. You will need a professional to help guide you in the right direction, to help you find the real reason behind having casual sex, and from there on you will determine, on your own, that having multiple sex partners is not necessary of fulfilling. If you need help finding a therapist, let us know what area you're in and whether or not you have health insurance and we can help you find someone that can best help you.
If you have any other questions that we can help you with, let us know and please keep us posted with your progress.
Here are some resources that may help in the meantime:
http://www.sexhelp.com/
http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm
http://www.sexaa.org/
All the best,
Rosa
July 12, 2011 - 8:51amThis Comment
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