Thanks for clarifying. I know you mentioned not liking anal but your original question said "from the rear" so that's where the confusion happened :)
The first time you have sex there could be some bleeding due to losing your virginity. However, it should not be overly painful nor should it feel like a tear. Everyone's pain threshold is different so what may just be a bit of discomfort for me, could be described as pain for you. With that being said, the pain should NOT be unbearable. If it is, then you may have either been hurt by your partner or even have something known as Vulvodynia.
Does it still hurt now that it's over or was the pain and bleeding only during sex? When you say "tear" do you mean your hymen? Or do you feel like he was rough enough to cause a tear in your vagina? If it's a vaginal tear, please see your doctor to avoid or be treated for an infection.
The next time you attempt to have sex, use plenty of lubrication, start one finger at a time and do not insert more than one finger at a time until you feel comfortable, once he can comfortably insert 3 fingers without you feeling any pain or discomfort ONLY then should you move on to penetration with his penis. Again, lubricate yourself and him as well and slowly begin to insert his penis into your vagina. Try to relax mentally as well as physically and if you continue to feel an increased amount of pain, then stop and see your doctor. Remember that it may not necessarily feel pleasurable at first but it should shortly after.
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Thanks for clarifying. I know you mentioned not liking anal but your original question said "from the rear" so that's where the confusion happened :)
The first time you have sex there could be some bleeding due to losing your virginity. However, it should not be overly painful nor should it feel like a tear. Everyone's pain threshold is different so what may just be a bit of discomfort for me, could be described as pain for you. With that being said, the pain should NOT be unbearable. If it is, then you may have either been hurt by your partner or even have something known as Vulvodynia.
Does it still hurt now that it's over or was the pain and bleeding only during sex? When you say "tear" do you mean your hymen? Or do you feel like he was rough enough to cause a tear in your vagina? If it's a vaginal tear, please see your doctor to avoid or be treated for an infection.
The next time you attempt to have sex, use plenty of lubrication, start one finger at a time and do not insert more than one finger at a time until you feel comfortable, once he can comfortably insert 3 fingers without you feeling any pain or discomfort ONLY then should you move on to penetration with his penis. Again, lubricate yourself and him as well and slowly begin to insert his penis into your vagina. Try to relax mentally as well as physically and if you continue to feel an increased amount of pain, then stop and see your doctor. Remember that it may not necessarily feel pleasurable at first but it should shortly after.
All the best,
July 20, 2011 - 8:37amRosa
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