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Although there are a lot of valid points in this article (the need to take responsibility for one's own behaviours, the need to accept the feelings of others, and the need of both friends to take space) I feel this is like most other articles that come from the point of view of the "healthy" friend, rather than the depressed friend. Having friends walk away from one another because they are unwilling to learn about illness, and because they are unwilling to expend energy while a friend struggles, is very disrespectful and behaviour that is not indicative of a true friend. When my friends tell me something is wrong, whether it be sickness, work place related/relationship related, I try to read up on things, to share helpful articles and to support them. I help find resources in their area and provide a shoulder/ear to support them. I do not turn my back on them because it is frustrating and they are not being fun. We all have our limits, and depression can be a tough and longstanding challenge. When we are unwilling to put energy forward for our friends, we are failing as friends. I don't believe we should be telling people it is "okay" to shut out friends who are lost in the dark. You have placed a lot of onus on the people who are sick (and are likely struggling to keep their heads above water) while telling their "happy" friends that they needn't take responsibility for dismissing a friend in need.

November 12, 2015 - 11:00am

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