This question tells us a lot more than your other question, https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/my-long-term-boyfriend-and-i-havent-had-sex-while-there-something-wrong-me
I think it's great that you are now on medication, however, the damage is done and the fact that you're on a short fuse, you have been violent and aggressive with your boyfriend are all reasons why your boyfriend has kept his distance. There are two things you have to consider: The first being your two year old son, who has absolutely no say in the way mommy and daddy act. If there is tension between the two of you, then your son will know this-- believe me, having a two year old of my own, children are more intuitive than we often give them credit for. You both owe it to him to at least try to get along, if you can't do that, then it's time to move on. But I certainly don't agree with two people staying together because of their children if they can't get it together. Violence and Aggression is not an environment that a child should grow up in--no matter what.
Secondly-- If you really want to make this work, you've got to put A LOT of effort to prove to your boyfriend that you are willing to change. You're already on medication for depression now show him that you love him, care for him, and respect him. I can tell you that he has more than likely lost respect for you due to the way you say you treat or have treated him in the past. Pushing for sex isn't the way to get respect back. You start by treating him the same way you want him to treat you. Share responsibility of your son, show your son how much you love daddy and him, say "please and thank you, daddy", be a positive example in your little one's life and show his father what your family means to you. This will take a while, but it's the only way.
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Hi Betty1988,
This question tells us a lot more than your other question, https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/my-long-term-boyfriend-and-i-havent-had-sex-while-there-something-wrong-me
I think it's great that you are now on medication, however, the damage is done and the fact that you're on a short fuse, you have been violent and aggressive with your boyfriend are all reasons why your boyfriend has kept his distance. There are two things you have to consider: The first being your two year old son, who has absolutely no say in the way mommy and daddy act. If there is tension between the two of you, then your son will know this-- believe me, having a two year old of my own, children are more intuitive than we often give them credit for. You both owe it to him to at least try to get along, if you can't do that, then it's time to move on. But I certainly don't agree with two people staying together because of their children if they can't get it together. Violence and Aggression is not an environment that a child should grow up in--no matter what.
Secondly-- If you really want to make this work, you've got to put A LOT of effort to prove to your boyfriend that you are willing to change. You're already on medication for depression now show him that you love him, care for him, and respect him. I can tell you that he has more than likely lost respect for you due to the way you say you treat or have treated him in the past. Pushing for sex isn't the way to get respect back. You start by treating him the same way you want him to treat you. Share responsibility of your son, show your son how much you love daddy and him, say "please and thank you, daddy", be a positive example in your little one's life and show his father what your family means to you. This will take a while, but it's the only way.
Wishing you and your family the best,
Rosa
August 23, 2011 - 8:35amThis Comment
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