Thank you so much for your advice and input. I never realized that this was considered emotional abuse-- I always felt like I was the one who had the problem. I mean, all-in-all he's a great person. His mother told me he has never loved anyone before, and that he is afraid of losing me. I spoke to him about it all, and he said I could do whatever I want, but just to know that there are consequences. I've never cheated on him or even looked at another guy. It's been years since I last talked to any of my old male friends. I think what I feel might be resentment. I thought he was improving because a few months back he didn't want me wearing certain things--and I listened then. But I stopped listening to that, and he got upset about it for a few days, but now he's okay with it.
I wonder if I stop listening like I did with that situation, if he would back off and let go. I wonder if because I am listening he thinks he has power over me. I'm a very submissive person, But I feel like you have encouraged me to be stronger.
Thank you, and I will keep you updated on the situation-- you have been a huge help.
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Thank you so much for your advice and input. I never realized that this was considered emotional abuse-- I always felt like I was the one who had the problem. I mean, all-in-all he's a great person. His mother told me he has never loved anyone before, and that he is afraid of losing me. I spoke to him about it all, and he said I could do whatever I want, but just to know that there are consequences. I've never cheated on him or even looked at another guy. It's been years since I last talked to any of my old male friends. I think what I feel might be resentment. I thought he was improving because a few months back he didn't want me wearing certain things--and I listened then. But I stopped listening to that, and he got upset about it for a few days, but now he's okay with it.
September 12, 2011 - 8:34amI wonder if I stop listening like I did with that situation, if he would back off and let go. I wonder if because I am listening he thinks he has power over me. I'm a very submissive person, But I feel like you have encouraged me to be stronger.
Thank you, and I will keep you updated on the situation-- you have been a huge help.
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