If you don't mind me sharing my story:
i met my husband in 07' - got into the relationship on sex terms (meaning we had sex first time meeting one another, sad?) Anyways, it was great! We actually fell in love with one another. Couple years later had a son - he didn't touch me ONE time when I was pregnant. I was lucky to get a kiss goodnight. I think my pregnant body repelled him. I had my son, he immediately had sex with me. I was still healing from having my baby with so many stitches but I guess with the bun out of the oven he wanted me again. I INSTANTLY got pregnant with my daughter. He didn't touch me again the whole pregnancy. Now, its been a year since having my daughter. My husband rarely gives me kisses, can't remember the last time he's french kissed me. Our sex life goes about every month and a half. Now, I found the culprit....after years of wondering why he didn't touch me, why he didn't feel the urge or why he rather text on his cell phone than talk with me and why we always fight!
His reason from his mouth: "Honey, I'm tired" "Babe, I've been working all night and you expect me to do that!" "Heather, you're silly bringing that up"
How I found out he doesn't want sex or desire sex is due to his medication. Each time he would have sex with me - he would be out of his meds and desire me for a day and maybe two days.
In your case, it sounds like your husband is being over-loaded with work. Can you monitor his calls/texts? You can easily set up a account online and see what his texts/phone calls are saying. I have done that with my husband for when he lost his phone. Although, he should NOT be telling you that you need to find security before touching you. That is BS! Every single woman needs their MAN there to feel secure about herself. If he's not touching you, you feel ugly. If he's texting on his phone and not talking to you, a little more insecurity. I threatened my husband with divorce - that was the last time he took me for granted! Maybe you should give him a reality check. Sorry this is so long. I'm kinda ranting about my own relationship too...eek. Hope all turns around for you!
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If you don't mind me sharing my story:
September 23, 2011 - 8:06pmi met my husband in 07' - got into the relationship on sex terms (meaning we had sex first time meeting one another, sad?) Anyways, it was great! We actually fell in love with one another. Couple years later had a son - he didn't touch me ONE time when I was pregnant. I was lucky to get a kiss goodnight. I think my pregnant body repelled him. I had my son, he immediately had sex with me. I was still healing from having my baby with so many stitches but I guess with the bun out of the oven he wanted me again. I INSTANTLY got pregnant with my daughter. He didn't touch me again the whole pregnancy. Now, its been a year since having my daughter. My husband rarely gives me kisses, can't remember the last time he's french kissed me. Our sex life goes about every month and a half. Now, I found the culprit....after years of wondering why he didn't touch me, why he didn't feel the urge or why he rather text on his cell phone than talk with me and why we always fight!
His reason from his mouth: "Honey, I'm tired" "Babe, I've been working all night and you expect me to do that!" "Heather, you're silly bringing that up"
How I found out he doesn't want sex or desire sex is due to his medication. Each time he would have sex with me - he would be out of his meds and desire me for a day and maybe two days.
In your case, it sounds like your husband is being over-loaded with work. Can you monitor his calls/texts? You can easily set up a account online and see what his texts/phone calls are saying. I have done that with my husband for when he lost his phone. Although, he should NOT be telling you that you need to find security before touching you. That is BS! Every single woman needs their MAN there to feel secure about herself. If he's not touching you, you feel ugly. If he's texting on his phone and not talking to you, a little more insecurity. I threatened my husband with divorce - that was the last time he took me for granted! Maybe you should give him a reality check. Sorry this is so long. I'm kinda ranting about my own relationship too...eek. Hope all turns around for you!
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