Hi future_doc,
Because you see all the signs that this relationship is not a positive one I suggest that you end it ASAP. The reason I am saying this is because I have a friend who was in a similar relationship and stayed with him for whatever reasons. He was also Bipolar and on no meds. She ended up getting pregnant and the relationship worsened. He also didn't work and simply wanted my friend to do it all for him. After her second child (who is now officially diagnosed as Bipolar) she finally left. Your boy friend will continue to use you for cash income and I'm sure he sees dollar signs when you become a surgeon. I suggest that you focus on yourself right now and what's best for you. You mentioned about self esteem and weight. I suggest you go to a gym with a friend, work out, meet other people, and focus on your true needs. Trust me, the relationship WILL NOT get any better but most likely worsened to the point he will get angry for you not meeting HIS needs. You're entitled to a person who loves you, wants to give you loving kisses and hugs, and praise you for your accomplishments. You have come a long way and you continue to deserve a lot more. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, because it doesn't sound like he really cares about your feelings or needs. Get out before it's too late!
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Hi future_doc,
January 5, 2012 - 8:41amBecause you see all the signs that this relationship is not a positive one I suggest that you end it ASAP. The reason I am saying this is because I have a friend who was in a similar relationship and stayed with him for whatever reasons. He was also Bipolar and on no meds. She ended up getting pregnant and the relationship worsened. He also didn't work and simply wanted my friend to do it all for him. After her second child (who is now officially diagnosed as Bipolar) she finally left. Your boy friend will continue to use you for cash income and I'm sure he sees dollar signs when you become a surgeon. I suggest that you focus on yourself right now and what's best for you. You mentioned about self esteem and weight. I suggest you go to a gym with a friend, work out, meet other people, and focus on your true needs. Trust me, the relationship WILL NOT get any better but most likely worsened to the point he will get angry for you not meeting HIS needs. You're entitled to a person who loves you, wants to give you loving kisses and hugs, and praise you for your accomplishments. You have come a long way and you continue to deserve a lot more. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, because it doesn't sound like he really cares about your feelings or needs. Get out before it's too late!
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