My story is similiar, you arent alone. My bf and I have been together for 5 years, the first 3 years our sex life was normal...we found each other mutually attractive and took advantage of any opportunity to have sex; also mutually satisfying. 2 years ago, however, we bought a house together and now live together. Since moving in together, we have only had sex a few times...he actually had a difficult time getting/keeping an erection and this made things really uncomfortable. I'm afraid to touch him there in case it doesnt work and I think he is equally afraid he wont be able to perform...so it's this really odd "elephant in the room" thing. I have a few times asked if he was interested in sex and he says he is, "but I never initiate it and when we go to bed at night I go right to sleep"
. When I talked to him about his lack of erection in the past, he said "we've both put on about 30lbs over the past few years and that has become an issue"....We are both working on losing weight now, I am curious to see if that will indeed improve our sex life....he is great in every other way, but like you....I feel sexual intimacy is important in a relationship. Currently, I feel like we are just room mates. Let's see how things go in the coming months - if weight loss helps. In the meantime, I'm not sure what to do with this lack of sexual intimacy.
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My story is similiar, you arent alone. My bf and I have been together for 5 years, the first 3 years our sex life was normal...we found each other mutually attractive and took advantage of any opportunity to have sex; also mutually satisfying. 2 years ago, however, we bought a house together and now live together. Since moving in together, we have only had sex a few times...he actually had a difficult time getting/keeping an erection and this made things really uncomfortable. I'm afraid to touch him there in case it doesnt work and I think he is equally afraid he wont be able to perform...so it's this really odd "elephant in the room" thing. I have a few times asked if he was interested in sex and he says he is, "but I never initiate it and when we go to bed at night I go right to sleep"
January 28, 2012 - 4:49pm. When I talked to him about his lack of erection in the past, he said "we've both put on about 30lbs over the past few years and that has become an issue"....We are both working on losing weight now, I am curious to see if that will indeed improve our sex life....he is great in every other way, but like you....I feel sexual intimacy is important in a relationship. Currently, I feel like we are just room mates. Let's see how things go in the coming months - if weight loss helps. In the meantime, I'm not sure what to do with this lack of sexual intimacy.
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