I wrote here now a long time ago about my problem which is the same. I've been with my boyfriend now for 3 years and heading into the 4th. We live together, own a house together, have dogs, cats and horses together and from the outside we look like the most perfect couple. Inside though I hurt from the sheer lack of sexual intimacy. I spoke about it here when it was just 6 months that we hadn't have a sexual relationship. We have now not had a sex life for 2 years!!!! I can't talk to him about it - Tried this and it didn't work. I asked him to go to his doctor as there could be a serious medical issue however he won't go. I have completley given up even talking to him about it now. He spends more time cuddling the dog then me. The only affection I get is a kiss in the morning when he leaves the house and one again when we go to bed. It's like kissing your granny with no physical feeling at all. I am terrified to touch him as I know he just doesn't like sex so there is no point in trying. I get into bed with my pj's on so that it makes it easier for him. We don't have to touch each other then and I just go to sleep as that is easier too. We continue our day to day life as if we are the perfect couple and nothing is wrong. However, it eats me up inside as I am not fat, I'm not thin (size 12), I'm not ugly, I have a brain, I'm sporty ......... I just don't get it. It constantly goes through my head that come September this year we will not have had sex for 3 years. I just don't know what to do anymore. Do I continue with everything as it's easy and we get on brilliantly as house mates and best friends? Do I call it quits and have the hassle of splitting everything up? (and we have a lot together - it may as well be a marriage). I just don't know. I can't change him. I do love him - I may as well though just be an accessory. He tells me he loves me daily. But are words enough?
Good luck girls ..............
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I wrote here now a long time ago about my problem which is the same. I've been with my boyfriend now for 3 years and heading into the 4th. We live together, own a house together, have dogs, cats and horses together and from the outside we look like the most perfect couple. Inside though I hurt from the sheer lack of sexual intimacy. I spoke about it here when it was just 6 months that we hadn't have a sexual relationship. We have now not had a sex life for 2 years!!!! I can't talk to him about it - Tried this and it didn't work. I asked him to go to his doctor as there could be a serious medical issue however he won't go. I have completley given up even talking to him about it now. He spends more time cuddling the dog then me. The only affection I get is a kiss in the morning when he leaves the house and one again when we go to bed. It's like kissing your granny with no physical feeling at all. I am terrified to touch him as I know he just doesn't like sex so there is no point in trying. I get into bed with my pj's on so that it makes it easier for him. We don't have to touch each other then and I just go to sleep as that is easier too. We continue our day to day life as if we are the perfect couple and nothing is wrong. However, it eats me up inside as I am not fat, I'm not thin (size 12), I'm not ugly, I have a brain, I'm sporty ......... I just don't get it. It constantly goes through my head that come September this year we will not have had sex for 3 years. I just don't know what to do anymore. Do I continue with everything as it's easy and we get on brilliantly as house mates and best friends? Do I call it quits and have the hassle of splitting everything up? (and we have a lot together - it may as well be a marriage). I just don't know. I can't change him. I do love him - I may as well though just be an accessory. He tells me he loves me daily. But are words enough?
February 9, 2012 - 10:37amGood luck girls ..............
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