Sorry to hear about your relationship not doing so great-- have you been actively looking for a job? Or do you think he just sees you as lounging around all day? I know that some men expect to come home to a nice clean home and a home-cooked meal if their wife has no job-- even men who do not ask for this are usually pleasantly surprised. If you honestly think that that fact that you are unemployed is what is putting a strain in your relationship, then you can try this route. But to be honest, sex more than once a day is a pretty unrealistic expectation-- especially because he works full-time and energy can and will decrease as we get older.
It may not necessarily be that he has lost respect for you-- but it can be that he feels like you don't care that he works all day and you are being inconsiderate about how tired he really is.
Rub his feet, offer a massage, or something sweet on his tired days...you may find that you get more than what you've bargained for.
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Hi Rocksy,
Sorry to hear about your relationship not doing so great-- have you been actively looking for a job? Or do you think he just sees you as lounging around all day? I know that some men expect to come home to a nice clean home and a home-cooked meal if their wife has no job-- even men who do not ask for this are usually pleasantly surprised. If you honestly think that that fact that you are unemployed is what is putting a strain in your relationship, then you can try this route. But to be honest, sex more than once a day is a pretty unrealistic expectation-- especially because he works full-time and energy can and will decrease as we get older.
It may not necessarily be that he has lost respect for you-- but it can be that he feels like you don't care that he works all day and you are being inconsiderate about how tired he really is.
Rub his feet, offer a massage, or something sweet on his tired days...you may find that you get more than what you've bargained for.
Best,
Rosa
January 23, 2012 - 7:14amThis Comment
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